nobody will want my eggs

[McHappyPants2012]

i have been thinking about the for some time.
i would not care about injecting myself.
i do not smoke, but once a week i drink 6 cans of strongbow.
but and this is a big but my son has autism

i would love to be able to give my eggs away i am 26, but i don't think i would get approved

Does the autism come from your side? Anyone else in the family autistic?

have you actually looked into this? If there's no bar in putting yourself forward then do so.

did you know that egg donation involves a slight risk to the life of the donor? apparently, it's due to the large doses of hormones given to promote extra egg production.

The private companies offering this sort of service tend to use uni students looking for a bit of extra money. People are very specific when 'buying' a baby; they want premium eggs &/or sperm; education, matched race and hair/eye colouring, similar interests music/sports prowess etc.

Are you sure you arent just torturing yourself with 'things I can't do now I have an autistic child'?

I do the same sometimes.

YABU to post here instead of talking to a clinic!
I think DozyDuck maybe has it though.

I agree with JumpingThroughHoops, they are looking for someone that is going to sell on paper.

I live in Cambridge, and the students at Cambridge University get flyers from these companies to try and get them to donate. Oxbridge students are brainy, and this is desirable.

I have been trying to find out what the actual medical restrictions might be. HEFA page says no donors over 36, and that all potential donors have to pass a screening, but (unlike say blood transfusion service) does not list any medical issue as an automatic barrier.

Unless an MNetter knows another reliable source which does provide more information it seems the only way to find out will be to put yourself forward and let the experts decide.

Donor egg recipients here in the UK dont really get to choose Oxbridge, long legged blonde donors.

Possibly the leafleting you mention is from fertility clinics outside the UK, but what Jumping Through Hoops describes is not allowed in the UK.

Lambzig this one fliers Oxbridge: Altrui It doesn't say anything about where the eggs go, interesting.

So what are recipients in the UK allowed to know about their donor? I'm really curious.

Have a look at fertilityfriends.com they are bound to have a forum about egg donation. It's common to donate extra eggs when having IVF so I doubt the criteria are that strict. I was too old to donate mine.

Good for you for thinking about it even. Oh and there's another thread in chat about egg donation too.

I have more knowledge of overseas protocols, so please someone correct me if I am wrong.

Donor recipients do get to know a little about their donor. Donors are medically screened and have counselling support. It is registered so any child can find out about the biological parent later on and is not totally anonymous for the donor anymore.

Recipients can ask for some matching criteria (eg, similar physical characteristics), and its medically important that the blood groups are compatible. However, waiting lists are so long here in the UK that most recipients are incredibly grateful that they have a match by then. They are certainly not selecting from some wish list here in the UK.

JumpingThroughHoops - "buying a baby", really?

OP, I do think its a huge ask of anyone to donate eggs, absolutely huge. It always amazes me that there are women out there who do this and I am pretty sure I couldn't do it and think someone who does that is incredibly generous to give other couples an opportunity of being a family. There are medical issues and the drugs are not easy, so it does need really careful thinking about it.

At my clinic the only info on donors were height weight , skin, hair & eye colour - I believe the "super" donors is more for overseas clinics.

If you contact a clinic they will let you know and give you information on the risks and what genetic conditions might preclude you etc - I dont believe in the Uk you would be allowed to donate without going through some counselling first - this is what applies to those receiving donor gametes.

However I also believe that in the UK donors are not paid more than limited expenses in order to ensure it is altruistic

If you are looking to do this it is a really amazing thing - I had sperm donor not eggs but I know there is desperate shortage in the Uk which is why so many go abroad.

there is a history of austism.

dozyduck that is far from true, after reading so many stories about infertility i would love to be able to give my eggs so they can to experience what i have got.

I didn't mean to offend you mchappypants at all. I just think after your last thread where you had so much going on with your little boy it just seems like something else you are giving headspace to that isn't necessary right now.

I do it all the time! At the moment my new one is 'what will I do when he's big' he's 6 years old!

Concentrate on the important things right now.

If you want to donate eggs you probably can. I wouldn't because of possible genetic links and the severity of DSs autism.

My friend has ADHD and she donated eggs... The baby is due this month!

I'm currently pregnant thanks to the selflessness of an anonymous egg donor and I will never be able to adequately express how grateful I am. As a recipient, you only find out height, eye colour, hair colour and nationality. That's it.
It's a big, huge, unbelievable decision and uncomfortable process for both sides; there's such a shortage of donors and I am hugely thankful to anyone even considering to give this gift.

For what it's worth, it's not buying a baby. I'm in my mid thirties, had ovarian failure and have been growing my baby in my body since it was just a cluster of eight cells. It was my last hope to be pregnant and be a mum.

McHappy I don't know whether autism would affect your ability to donate, but a call to any fertility clinic would be able to advise you.

I got rejected for donation specifically due to DS having a diagnosis for ASD.

The clinic said it had a duty of care to the recipient and knowingly using eggs from a donor whose child had a genetic condition was an issue.

Sorry OP if that's not what you wanted to hear

this is some thing i feel strong to do.

i have no use for the eggs and would love to give someone a child

I donated eggs in Spain and New Zealand and I was specifically asked about known genetic disorders and heritable diseases in my family. I consider it just logical that this information is required.