My husband is wonderful- he is kind and attentive and is a very devoted father. He spends hours feeding our DS and playing with him. He is reliable- he finishes work at 4 and I know 100% he will be home by 4:30 and will be with us, he spends all his time with us and I know his finances to the last penny- his salary comes into a joint account which I manage.
He has never given me any reason to be concerned- aside the fact that for the last 6 years he has been very secretive over his phone. He takes it everywhere including the loo and keeps it with him all the time- he never lets me look at it- same with his FB and emails- his passwords are all secret and he never lets me have a glimpse.
6 years back I came across emails between him and an old beau which were inappropriate- she lives in Boston. They never did anything- as she lives in Boston and as far as I know she is still there. We got over it and he was apologetic and said he wouldn?t speak to her again and I don?t think he has done, although I guess I cant be sure. Since then he has become very protective over everything- and whereas he is the perfect husband, he is making the fruit of temptation all the more tasty by how he is being. When confronted, we argue and then it all goes back to how it was- nothing comes out of it as he is adamant.
So am I being unreasonable? is ignorance really bliss?
Is there a clever resourceful way in which I can access his emails/FB/phone to ease my curiosity without him knowing? Or do I trust him and live under this cloud of suspicion? Or am I expecting too much from him?
Advice will be great