to be really worried about my Mum

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To cut a long story short me and my step dad dont get on at all and Im polite but not really that bothered about him. He has over the last month been having really dizzy spells and telling my mum that she cant leave the house in case he collapses. He has been to the doctors and hospital for various tests and they cant find anything wrong. Saw my mum last night who admitted that shes is struggling with this whole situation. She has lost so much weight and can no longer do anything that would involve her leaving him alone. Upon going out into the garden with her last night it became obvious that she hasnt been doing any of this either. She is retired and loves keeping her garden up together normally. Also last weekend my step dad got bitten on the hand by a rat in the garden. This is because he has loads of rubbish in the garden and it looks awful. Im tempted to call the council and complain about this but thats another subject for discussion. I just feel hes turned my mum into a carer/prisoner in her own home. Should I mind my own business? Ive offered to help but I know for a fact this would then cause arguements between them ; 0 (

If he's only been having dizzy spells over the last month, it's probably far too early to make a firm diagnosis. Often these things are done by process of elimination.

For example, my MIL was having dizzy spells for almost 3 years until they eliminated lots of different things and diagnosed her with MS.

Can you not help your Mum with the garden? Why would it cause arguments?

Do you think his dizzy spells are at the thought of her leading any kind of independent life?

Your poor mum. Get the rat situation sorted by ringing the council. It's ridiculous that they're not sorting it.

Was he a control freak before? Is this an escalation or a new thing for him?

he has always been a control freak with her but its gut wrenching seeing her cry but the current situation is on top of this. Last night while I was there the phone rang and he said to her "gods sake thats probably for you again just give it to me" Im happy to go over there at weekends and help but he ignores his grandson and is just generally not a nice man. He then takes it out on my mum. I make the effort to see her on a saturday but its not nice seeing this going on. The hopsital and doctor visits have been going on for at least a year and they say its just the aging process. Hes 77