Seeing my dad WWYD

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In November I became mentally unwell and needed my dad to move in with me to help look after DD.

He came back one evening really drunk and started a fight with DH. He was very aggressive, I was scared. DH asked him to leave. He left without telling us where he was going. This was on Christmas eve. He didn't come back we had no clue where he was.

I haven't spoken to him since that night. Today I got a birthday card for DD from him.

Should I see him again? Think he deserves a second chance? X

Quite possibly.

Was the incident a one-off, or is there a history of drunkenness and aggression?

One off. But he is an alcoholic which worries me that he'll potentially do it again

If it was a one off then I would see him again.

Also it depends on the reason behind the fight really.

It does depend on how well you are at the moment.

He did do the right thing in rallying round when you needed him, even though that was followed later by this incident. As the outburst was a one off, I think it might be right to keep you options open by acknowledging the olive branch that this card could represent. Obviously you need to think about taking it slowly, and in circumstances in which you feel safe (you might not want him in your home, for example).

If he is an alcoholic see him but only ever in the morning (I do this with my dad) weatherspoons is great because you can buy a breakfast and alcoholic dad can have a drink. Make it really early so he has to limit his drinking the night before.

Really you shouldn't be relying on your alcoholic dad for help with you mh issues.

I figure he did you a big favour moving in, made one (pretty big obviously) mistake. Depending on the reason for the fight I'd say the favour goes a long way towards making up for the mistake. You're not obliged to see him but I would give him a second chance in your shoes.

I wonder at the reason for the fight.