I know I am, give me a slap!

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I have a c section booked for next week. I have tokophobia and am much calmer than I would be facing VB but am still finding this a difficult time.

DH is aware of all of this but due to being self employed he's not been able to come to any of my appointments apart from one. I totally understand this and he does work hard which I'm grateful for.

I was hoping he'd be able to take the day off before my section but I've just found out he's already planned to work late so won't be home til 9pm.

I know I'm ungrateful and should be glad he's thinking practically but ohhhhh. Slaps needed please, and reminders that I should be glad he works hard without complaint!!

YABU, but it is understandable that you are worrying a bit. Is there anyone else who can come and take your mind off things the day before?

Awwwww - you need support, but also he needs to work.

That's tough - who else can you get to come and hold your hand? Can you get a girlfriend round for laughs and a film to take your mind of the next day?

I don't think anyone here is going to slap you! Good luck with the birth but talk to DH and see if he can come to a different arrangement.

Take it as the day before you can have a truly pampering day with friends/family, a nice meal or something when he comes home? It would be nice to get ready for the big day together but he is working does he have to until 9 or is that so he can catch up and be with you and new baby a bit longer after the birth?. Good luck and congratulations

I don't think slaps are in order, he is doing what he thinks is the right thing and having had a self-employed DH he probably is but it doesn't diminish your fear. Is there anyone else you could spend the day with?

Thank you everyone. I'm sure I can find things to do to take my mind off it a bit but it's not the same as having him close by. I know he's being sensible and I know I'm being ridiculously childish but I just wanted to be with him. Much easier to shake it off reading your comments though. And thank you for the congratulations, I can't believe I've got this far and am lucky enough to be having a baby.

You aren't childish - you are coping with your fears - perfectly natural to want your closest love to be with you at that time. Hope you can find a good second best though.

Have a cyber babyshower on the chat board that night to take your mind off things until he gets home from work. You will be fine. :)

I would never slap a pregnant woman so forget that. YABU but as you already know it and why, all i can say is try to stay calm (easier said than done) and get some friends round to talk it through with you. Or if you can't do that then come back here and we will all try and make you feel better and talk through any worries with you. :-)

No way am I slapping a pregnant woman, that wouldn't look good in court. You're allowed to unreasonable when you're pregnant, unfortunately it's one of those cases where reasonableness wins, you know what he's doing makes sense so you're just going to have to find another way to cope. Definitely recruit someone to come and watch a film with you, or even go out if you feel up to it, you need to make the time pass as best you can. Try to ignore the bit before hand and focus on looking forward to holding your beautiful new baby in your arms.

Try to ignore the bit before hand and focus on looking forward to holding your beautiful new baby in your arms. Good advice - like crossing a rope bridge - don't look down - just look at where you're going.