To want to scream at my dentist

[dondon33]

I'm terrified of the Dentist but needed to go for a few things done, nothing major
It took a huge dose of self ass kicking, not only to get me there but to have the treatment without sedation (usually I would)

So I go and she was patient and lovely with me but..... No1= she insisted on repairing a tooth that will need to come out eventually BUT at the time wasn't causing me any problems, so I was quite happy to leave it for now, I didn't even mention it as a reason for my visit. Anyway she went ahead and removed a filling from it then replaced it??? (she's the Dentist so I was under the impression that she knew best) this has resulted in huge pain, I now can't eat on that side and I'm in agony and spent the night in tears. I'm not sure if it could be because she has been poking around in there and unsettled things and maybe it will settle down again or if it could be related to the fact I had to have 8 injections in my mouth and that is still sore too.

No2- she missed one of my fillings, leaving it still needing to be done = another anxious appointment :(

No3- somehow during the treatment she has CHIPPED my fecking tooth, it definitely wasn't like that before I went. I'm so pissed off about it, it's noticeable being at the front and bloody sharp. I'm more annoyed that she didn't notice/say that it had happened then fix it, she just left it for me to see at home.

Really feeling sorry for myself today and NEVER want to return to a Dentist :(

She probably hasnt chipped the tooth, it could be that plaque has been removed and it feels a bit odd, which usually happens but will settled down after a few days

If she has chipped it, a tiny chip will probably be unnoticeable to her unless you point it out, but feels like a massive chip to you.

The pain is probably most likely to be due to the injections as well. I had a tooth out a few months ago and the jaw and area surrounding the injection was bloody sore for days, more painful than the wound where the tooth was.

Go back though if you are still unhappy with what she has done.

The soreness should settle down - I'm pretty sure that'll be down to the injections (recent experience with a removed and replaced filling and a chipped tooth needing 4 injections and surprisingly sore that night and next day).

Well done for going and getting it done.

Now I think you need to phone up and sort the other problems out.

Not easy,I know,but you're on a roll so you may as well get it sorted.

It's definitely chipped, there's a gap like a piece has been snapped off :(

I know I do need to go back but I'm afraid if the pain doesn't stop then I'm not going to leave there until the tooth's extracted. I can't bear this pain. I'm already doped up with 50mg of diclefenac and 60mg of codeine and paracetamol and it's not helping. I'd honestly rather give birth than suffer this ARGHHH

Phone them and tell them what you're experiencing and see if you need to book an emergency appointment.

is it a white filling? They can leave your teeth sensitive for a while afterwards, we do say to allow up to 6 weeks for it to settle down but if it is EXTREMELY painful and not improving I would call the dentist and just tell them this, as this much pain is not normal after a filling. It could be that the nerve has flared up and is dying off if its a deep filling in which case they can remove it and root fill the tooth for you. Or it could well just get less and less painful. Please do call and let them know though, don't suffer away in silence.

I would also tell them about the chipped tooth (if it IS chipped, I agree with squeaky, people often say their teeth feel sharp and very different after scaling) as they will easily be able to repair that probably without even requiring anaesthetic.

Thanks for the replies.

I just called to a different dentist for advice and they said it definitely should not be giving me this much pain, stopping me eating and from sleeping.
I've got an app with them at 2.30 today to have a look and see what they think.

Fanjo- yes it's a white filling but there's nothing can be done to fix it. It's knackered all the way down to my jaw (so I'm assuming underneath the tooth) I knew it would defo need to come out at some point but I'm more pissed off with the fact I didn't complain about this tooth at all, it didn't hurt or give me problems (YET) but the dentist decided that the silver filling that was already in should be replaced.... I did question why if it needed to come out at a later point anyway and it wasn't giving me a problem now but I trusted her advice to see if she could "hold/save" it for a bit longer.
Tooth is chipped, if you imagine the tooth next to my front one on the left upper, at the bottom of that tooth is a clear chip like this ^ it looks like I've banged it on something and a small piece has came off, I know what you mean about after the scaling, I've felt this before myself. I'm not worried about this part as it's only small and a quick botch job will fix it.

I have a huge phobia of the dentist due to a horrific experience 6 or 7 years ago during an extraction of a big bottom tooth. I took anti B's for one week then returned to the dentist, I told him it was still painful, he numbed me up 3 times and I kept telling him I could feel it still, he insisted I couldn't and wouldn't listen so I let him proceed, what happened next is the worst pain I've ever felt in my life and he nearly broke my jaw to get the twatting thing out, he had to hold some metal support thingy against my outer jaw (can't really remember as I think I was having an outer body experience by that time) I screamed the bloody place down then had to apologise to the poor sods waiting to go in after me His words to me after were "oh dear me you did still had a huge infection and your tooth had 2 extra roots which is why it hurt so much"
No apology for not listening to what I was saying or nothing bastard

So now I'm sat here terrified and nervous and in tears as I know the probable likelihood is it needs to come out now. I so want to just say do it now today but I don't know how I'll react when I'm in the chair and the pliers go in my mouth to take it out that's if I'm still in the chair at this point But I also don't know how long it will take for an app with sedation to be arranged for me. GRRR just feel like screaming :( :(

Don't cry, I am hopeful that it won't be as bad as you fear.

Very understandable you have a phobia now. This should not be anything like as bad as that though

Do tell them your fears and what happened before

Thanks Fanjo. My DP is trying and failing to calm me down but he's one of these that can quite happily go to the dentist and is not fearful at all and he doesn't understand why I'm being admittedly somewhat irrational.

I chose my last visit on Tuesday as the visit I would be brave and have no sedation, after the horror appointment every time I visited the dentist I had to be sedated for work to be done.

Tuesday I forced myself to be brave to try to re-build my confidence with the whole dentist experience. I also chose to have all the work done in one appointment to get it over with. I feel so disheartened now :(

The Dentist knew how afraid I was and like I mentioned before she was very nice and very patient with me, for that I can't complain. The chipped tooth can be forgiven, it didn't hurt and isn't hurting and is easily fixed but the fact she missed a filling that should have been done -now forcing me to return anyway when I just wanted it all completed in one go and this bloody painful one that she re-filled for no apparent good reason, I'm really annoyed about. I tried thinking if I would feel the same way without the fear factor being there, and yes I believe I would.

Anyway, lets see what a different dentist has to advise, My app is with a different practice today. only 2.5 more hours of shitting myself to go, where did I put the diazepam

Sorry for rambling...typing is taking my mind of it.

**the pain is easing a tiny bit after my second intake of painkillers of the day but DP doesn't believe my whining that it's eased off enough NOT to go :) and has said he will physically carry me there if necessary :@ bloody sod! but he's right

Go and tell the dentist everything - that you would normally have sedation etc etc and that you are really scared because of your previous experience and let them decide how to proceed.

I can definitely empathise with where you are at the moment.Take it one step at a time.

I hope it is resolved for you,and let us know how it all went.

Thank you Coprolite.
I've got to go get ready now for my app :( Shitting myself doesn't come close.
I have to explain each time I visit a new dentist- they kind of guess with my reluctance to jump straight into the chair and trying to make myself blend into the wall as far away from them as possible :)
I will update later. x

Hope it goes smoothly for you :)

So I went and OMFG :(
Went in explained to the different Dentist. Had yet another X-ray (at this rate I'll be radioactive soon) Not only was she appalled that 1st one had messed with this tooth in the first place, she agreed it shouldn't have been touched and now defo needs to be extracted.
She gave me the choice of having it removed today but I had a panic attack in the chair when she was talking about it :( so decided it wasn't the best option and offered me sedation....Great I thought until I went to make an appointment for it...first date they have is 3rd of september!!! WTAF it's a joke for a bloody huge practice with around 15-20 Dentists. I've had to take that app but plan to call to the original practice and see if they could do it sooner. I absolutely can't wait that long to sort this out, it's not my fault that I'm scared but feels like it. I'm soooo pissed off.
It never rains but fuckingpours :(

can you keep trying for a cancellation too?

I'm going to call original Dentist tomorrow, don't really want her to touch me but I don't think she can do sedation anyway, it would be someone else from that practice, I'll see what they say but yeah if I'm forced to keep the app I have I'll ring daily if I have to and check for cancellations.

Good idea, people are always canceling and dentists are often looking to fill spaces :) is it still just as painful?

I feel for you dondon. I can only have teeth extracted under sedation too. (I've had bad experiences in the past until it was recognised that I have an extra nerve supply so the local anaesthetic done ordinarily doesn't work properly on me)

I really hope you get a cancellation soon.I would pester relentlessly.

I go to the dentist diligently so that I have things done while they're little and easy to deal with,and I find that the best approach - I need an extraction under sedation at the moment but as it's been caught quickly (before I'm in pain) I can wait for a referral.It's really not fair that you've been put in this position.

And,no,like with me,it's not your fault you're scared. Don't feel like you're the only one.

I'm hoping so, I could really twat myself for not being able, for just 10 god damn minutes, to lie in the chair and let her quickly pull it :(

Yeah it's still the same, depending on the time of painkillers, first hour of taking them takes the edge off but then it's torture again after that. Can't eat, can't bear to chew or move my jaw. Cold coffee and water is all that's passed my lips today.
I'm going to try and cover the tooth with sensodyne toothpaste to see if I can ease some of the sensitivity around it (it does work for sensitive teeth so I'm hopeful ) and make some clove water for my gum, it's quite numbing so can possibly relieve it a little, enough to eat something, even though it tastes vile although at this point I'd happily lick nettles if I thought it would help
I've got anti-B's from the Dentist today to start taking, she can't see any obvious infection but she doesn't know what's happening underneath so I'm hoping they can help too.