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Really loud door knocking...

106 replies

Spuddybean · 15/08/2012 18:00

Not really sure if i was overreacting. This morning i was sitting eating my breakfast in my dressing gown (9ish). I am 38 wks pregnant (not sure if that's relevant to my mental state!). Suddenly there was the loudest rapping of our letterbox. It really made me jump. It was about 10 sustained/continuous bangs.

I thought the house was on fire or something. So i raced to the door to see the post man holding a package. I said to him politely 'next time can you not knock like that please, you really frightened me' and he looked furious and said 'how am i supposed to knock then' and i replied 'perhaps a bit softer and not for so long, it was really loud'. He then stormed back to the van shaking his head (didn't get me to sign the slip) and muttering and swearing and drove off.

I could understand if he had knocked gently first but he hadn't. Also our front door opens straight off the street into the living space, so you really don't need to rattle the hinges for us to hear it.

I am very tired as not sleeping well, and the way he reacted has made me think maybe i was in the wrong. But i was really expecting him to say 'oh sorry' not give me a load of verbal.

No biggy in the grand scheme of things of course, but AIBU to think that kind of alarm raising banging should be kept for emergencies? How would you knock on a door? i always start gently.

OP posts:
Troy27 · 17/04/2014 10:33

I put up with the postwomen banging on my glass door and ringing the door bell at the same time?I told her that the bell is working yet 2 weeks later she did exactly the same thing? I asked why she had done this again? the reply was she can not hear the bell outside? Ho i thought, silly me the bell is to tell the postwomen she is ringing the bell and theres me thinking it was to tell me someone is at my front door!!!. There is a difference between knocking on a door and thumping on a door and thats the problem.
This post person was looking for an excuse and by her red face (with temper) she obviously hated being told off.

AnotherSpinningFuckingRainbow · 17/04/2014 10:34

How many were there?

Perfectlypurple · 17/04/2014 10:41

Another zombie thread! This is 18 months old

PigletJohn · 17/04/2014 10:49

'how am i supposed to knock then'

Does that mean you haven't got a doorbell?

chipshop · 17/04/2014 11:27

I love our postie knocking loudly, which he certainly does. It's usually at 7am when we're in bed. He even manages to wake DP up (no mean feat) which means he goes down instead of me. And I'd much rather a loud knock than a trip to the delivery office.

So I guess they can't win...

Nicola19 · 17/04/2014 13:47

When DDs were babies I hated all unexpected door knockers and popped a sign up on the front door saying 'please shhhhh, baby sleeping.' It worked pretty well.

Koothrapanties · 17/04/2014 13:49

YANBU. Ours rams on the door with his fist. He has woken the baby repeatedly and scared the life out of me. He isn't the most friendly of blokes anyway but this really pisses me off.

Koothrapanties · 17/04/2014 13:50

Balls zombie thread.

Troy27 · 02/06/2015 08:17

There is a massive difference in knocking on a front door and thumping the galls panel of the door as what happens in my case.The idiot post persons all come out for the same reason.My door bell works and rings inside to alert me someone is at my front door and only the post person rings the bell and exactly the same time thumps hell out the glass panel.They always say ho we can not hear the bell outside? well dumbo how do you know its not working? why not wait just a minute then gently knock of the doorsolid part and not the glass?Sorry I have no time for thickos who just want to get back to base to get more overtime and that is the sole reason for being a mad` rush to finish.I wonder how they would react who thumps the glass of their front door as if a drugs raid was about to commence.............at least the Police shout first.

merrymouse · 02/06/2015 08:23

I think a zombie wouldn't knock loudly but it would keep going until you chopped it's head off.

AJNH · 02/06/2015 08:24

Zombie thread?! 2012!

ghostyslovesheep · 02/06/2015 08:24

hmmmmm Brains

Really loud door knocking...
CoogerAndDark · 02/06/2015 08:27

You're on a bit of a delay there, Troy27.

BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2015 08:28

I expect you'd be moaning if you hadn't heard him and not got your parcel.

Was it a grip he delivered? Wink I think they sell them on Amazon now!

BathshebaDarkstone · 02/06/2015 08:30

YANBU. I'd have thought it was a police raid or something! Shock

Songlark · 02/06/2015 08:40

Just because he has a job to do doesn't mean he has to knock louder than anyone else coming to the door. Totally unnecessary and rude.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 02/06/2015 08:56

Can't believe people are actually saying yabu and making excuses for him. Honestly only on here would get such an unsympathetic hostile response.
He was rude. Very rude and if I wasn't such a nice person I'd say to report him for his bad language And horrendos conduct, but seeing as i wouldn't want a sacking on my conciense or the fact that he mAy have children to feed and it's not their fault. I wouldn't. However I wouldn't blame you if you did. I've got to be honest there., and they probably wouldn't go as far as sacking him perhaps give him a tAlking to.

Icimoi · 02/06/2015 09:00

The whole house shook!

Oh, come off it. Especially as you say you live in a terrace.

BathshebaDarkstone · 02/06/2015 09:37

Oh it's a zombie thread? Oops. Blush

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 02/06/2015 09:47

Who and why do people insist on resurrecting these zombie threads.
I mean it's not really that much of an interesting thread to begin with. Mind you I'm on here aren't I keeping it alive

morelikeguidelines · 02/06/2015 10:04

Yanbu. Delivery guys do this round our way too. Really loud thumping repeatedly which does make you think there must be some emergency. And makes you jump, as you say.

I can understand why they do it, as people may say that they didn't hear a quieter knock and be pissed off when they get that smug little card.

I do have some sensory issues about loud noises though so my vote is not necessarily representative. Smile

morelikeguidelines · 02/06/2015 10:04

Aargh! Zombie alert!

MrsNextDoor · 02/06/2015 10:07

Oh yanbu! It's SO rude! Our paper lad has always buzzed our intercom in a loooooooooonnnnnn beeeeeeeeeeep whenever he's had to and I want to frigging scream!

I told him not to.

LadyPenny · 02/06/2015 10:08

spuddybean Is he very tall?. I also have a postman who does this.

The first time he did it I nearly wet myself, he scared the crap out of me. I told dh about it that night. A couple of weeks later there was the hammering again and I just knew it was him.

My ones massive as well so looks really intimidating through the door glass.

VivienScott · 02/06/2015 10:15

YANBU. My postman knocks like he's trying to batter the door down, really winds me up!