To think that it might have been something to share individually with me?

[NoWayNoHow]

Old friend, known for about 20 years, see each other once every few months, although not as often as we plan to as she has a tendency to cancel at the last minute. This in itself isn't great as we both have DC and it'll always be at the last minute when I've arranged childcare in advance.

But, that's by the by, although I guess it's influenced how much we've seen each other. Still I consider her a good friend, an old friend, and I thought she felt the same.

Texted her this morning just about something random, not heard back. Fine, people are busy, I wasn't expecting a reply immediately.

However, I've just seen her FB status and it's talking about her pregnancy (not announcing it, just talking generally about it as though it's old news).

I had no idea she was pregnant again...

AIBU to be slightly hurt that she wouldn't have taken the time to let me know something as big as this personally? Even a quick email, or a reply to my earlier text. I don't even know how far along she is!

maybe she thought she had?

I've done that loads of times. Been convinced I've told someone something, only to find out later that I hadn't!

Ah, don't worry about it. Not everyone does the big announcement (I didn't). And most people are much more relaxed about the 2nd/3rd etc ones anyway...

Not worried, just a bit surprised and hurt that she didn't bother to tell me. SHe apparently told our other close friend (there's a group of 4 of us) 3 weeks ago, but she (the other friend) didn't think to tell me as assumed the pregnant friend had been in touch with me too.

Guess I'm just a bit sad that I don't feature on her radar. Nevermind!

If you two have actually chatted on the phone since she's been pregnant then YANBU.

It's the sort of thing I would definitely expect to be brought up in a proper conversation.

But via text, email or FB message...not so much as it's not necessarily a 'chatty' situation.

No, worra we've not chatted in the last couple of weeks. Although there was nothing stopping her picking up the phone and calling if she had something important to tell me! I would.

I am currently in the process of making sure that all my 'important' people get either a phonecall or email from me announcing my news.

Until that point, when i know all bases are covered, nobody is allowed to mention it on Facebook.

I have to say, even though I think I've got everyone covered, I am petrified that I will miss somebody - completely unintentionally.

Maybe that's what happened here?

Also, jesus I am ill with all day sickness at the moment and have been a bit hit and miss replying to text messages (although I have managed to arse around on FB and MN.....no idea why!)

I can understand why you would be upset, but ultimately, I doubt she's done it with malice IYSWIM.

I didn't know best friend was pg until I actually saw her. By this times she was 8 months, then the second time 6 months.
She didn't want to tell me over the phone.

I upset my closest friend a bit at the weekend because I thought i had told her about what gender we were having weeks ago and I just hadn't told her somehow even though we had spoken a few times. I told someone I hardly know in front of her. Had to apologise, but i was sure that I had told her. Pregnancy brain?

Delete your fb account, my sister announced her pregnancy on fb, without telling me first. I used to get so pissed off with what I read on fb, I am much happier without it and my relationship with my sister had greatly improved since