My darling SIL in quite a few years older than my husband, lives in the house her parents brought for their retirement, doesn't work, husband has relatively good job etc and they have 3 children between 8 and 12.
I and my husband both work full time, juggling hours between us so our child only goes into childcare 3 1/2 days a week. We have been open about wanting DC2. Today she said to me that she didn't understand why we wanted another child when we didn't spend enough quality time with DC1 and both choose to work full time so didn't prioritise our DC above money!
I was really shocked, she has a free house and a husband who pays the rest of the bills, we work very hard to provide for our family and give up a lot of our free time to juggle our jobs enough to allow us as much time as possible with our DC i.e. we both do 2 hours work each evening after he has gone to bed etc (We're very lucky to both have very flexible jobs). Our DC is everything to us, and is a very happy, well adjusted child.
I was gobsmacked and didn't respond. She doesn't know we have recently had 2 MCs back to back, but I am not sure it would of made her be any more sensitive. Sometimes it really irks me how much she seems to take her position for granted and not think about anyone else or that many, many people aren't that lucky. And honestly good for her that she gets to stay at home with her children - but we're not all that lucky. Goodness knows what will happen when the PIL want their retirement house back and give up the business where they live and work!