So my sister is an odd one. She is a very difficult, opinionated and quite caustic person. Always has been.
She has a ds. She litterally hates children, hates them. She tolerates her boy who is scrumptious, gorgeous but very quiet and withdrawn because of her and her dp probably.
(he is 10)
My ds is 9, complete opposite to my nephew, wild, boystrous, loud, a handful.
My sister cannot bear to be around my ds. We ahve had words as she firmly believes that there is something wrong with him, "that attention deficit disease or somesuch" were her actual words. She thinks we let him do what he wants and that is why he is so wild. (Rubbish btw, she just thinks kids should not make sound/move/speak/ask for anything etc)
We agree to disagree, i keep my boy away from her, she doesnt see him form one year to the next.
Anyhow, they do not take ther ds anywhere. He is very interested in electronic stuff, sorry i dont know the technical names for them, its those hand held computer game things. He is also a big reader. He spends most holidays in his room, doing one or the other.
We are very active as a family and i often invite my nephew to come on days out with us. I think he finds my ds too much, so often he says no, but occasionally will say yes and will come along.
He is very hard to read, i can never tell if he is having fun. He hides his feelings exceptionally well.
BUT there is always a kick back from my sister.
Either that her ds's behaviour is terrible when he has spent time with mine, or that it takes him days to recover, he is so exhausted and tearful.
I ADORE my nephew, and i like to think he has fun with us, while he is with us. So i keep inviting him.
We have just been away in a posh hotel (groupon bargain) and went to Cadbury world. He said he was bored, and we were due to come home any way, so piled into the car and hit horrendous traffic.
He got car sick, poor little fella, but coped well.
I know that i am going to get a mouthful from my sister about feeding him shit, causing him to be ill.....they gave out free chocolate and he wolfed some of it down. (I kept most of it, as it was just too much).
I want to tell her to fuck the fuck off, but i need to keep seeing my nephew and giving him a wee bit of adventure in his life.
Ranting like a ranting rant woman on rant island with no one to rant at for 10 years, sorry.
Im fed up with trying to do a nice thing and getting grief...but stuck becuase of my lovely nephew and my need to include him.
GAHHHHHHH!