Eavesdropping on teenage conversation.

[JumpingThroughHoops]

Son (17) has a couple of mates chatting away in the back garden not very quietly I might add.

This is going to get complicated. Sons, best mates GF is discussing her BF cheating on her. The BF being sons best mate. She's 15, the BF is 18.

She's not sure exactly what this form of cheating took (kiss or a whole lot more) , I couldn't quite catch that bit, and includes gems like "I don't know why he did it, I give him everything he wants" .

Shes just come out with the line (to my son) "My mum says I should shag you (my son) to get even".

What sort of parent even suggests, even jocular, that you use sex to 'get even'? Let alone she's under age. And frankly, I'm glad my son has a little more moral back bone to (a) not do the dirty on his best mate (b) not touch an under aged girl anyway. (I have drummed it into him that anyone not legal could land him with a record as a sex offender)

I just "oi"'d out that I could hear every thing and I hoped GF wouldnt consider using son as he is also her friend. I also told her she shouldn't "give him (the BF) everything he wants" as tool to keep him and she should have a little more respect for herself and find a boyfriend who treats her more nicely.

AIBU to think it wasn't this complicated when I was that age.

I was a mucky little skank at 15... Terribly low self esteem and a desperate need for acceptance. You would have been hideously ashamed of me Lisario

^lisaro

When my dd is older I want JTH eavesdropping!

No, DialsMavis, you weren't a mucky little skank, and neither was I.
There was more going on than meets the eye, and you'd think any decent person would know that.

I know I come across as a right old bitch sometimes but, there are times I do just want to sweep these girls up and teach them the Jumping way!

Teenage girls who use sex, give sex, what ever term you want to use are generally looking for someone to love them. I've yet to meet what I would call a genuinely promiscuous girl of that age. It does make me sad. Very sad actually. It's almost like they are trading their bodies for love.

I agree with you 100% jumping

though I think "teaching them the jumping way" sounds like some sort of kinky sex game LOL!

It is sad Jumping.

Not something to be judged or make nasty comments about.

I have talked to DS's female friends if there has been a need, and also talked to DS in the way you describe talking to yours.
This stuff isn't second nature and if we don't guide them it's a minefield.

Don't take any notice of that stupid comment Dials, it says more about Lisaro than the girl she is commenting on.

A hug if it is your thing x

Jumping, I think you did the right thing.

Poor girl, hopefully your words will resonate with her and a make a difference. If not now, then in the future.

15year old girls are not 'mucky'. Ever.

My god lisaro

That's a 15 year old girl you're talking about, one who seems to have very little self-worth or self-esteem. Good job she's not looking to you to help her find either of them, eh, given you've completely written her off. FFS.

If anyone should be criticised here it is the cheating 18 year old bf who sounds like he is exploiting a young girl with low self esteem.

Jumping - your ds sounds nice

She is misguided, not mucky, sad, not a skank. I'm dissapointed that you would use such language lisaro, whe it is clear she is being manipulated by an older man. Ive seen it a thousand times, older bf seems cool, wants sex, you do it because you really like him, and he says he 'really' likes you.

Poor girl she sounds like she has some self esteem problems if she's "giving him everything he wants" just to try and keep him. Doesn't sound like her Mum is much help.
Glad your son knows better OP.