I know I was stroppy, but was I unreasonable?

[Cathycomehome]

My son's godfather was not, in my opinion, a brilliant choice as it has turned out. He is a very old friend of mine, more than twenty years, and I am fond of him, BUT...

Since my older son was born, he has sent two birthday cards (1 and 3 years old) and one present (10 years old; present two months late). He very rarely asks about son 1, we speak on the phone maybe once a month. He does, however, like to carry a photo of my older son around in his wallet, and tells people all about how he is a godfather to Cathycomehome's son, and it's such an honour he takes so seriously .

Anyway, he sent me a text cancelling meeting up at very short notice, and then another saying "By the way, did I forget X's birthday?" .... And I texted back "Not this one...."

My best friend, who lives in Italy now, manages to ask about him, speak to him on the phone one a month and send him a card every year. She is the more successful choice in my view....

For new baby's christening, we need to think about it very carefully I guess, and make sure godparents really do want to be godparents.

Oh, but mamatj, I think that's different, this guy is in touch with us, after all. Just incredibly sporadically interested.

I think it's a man thing!!

YANBU!! you should have told him off sooner though.

Ah... Well I have just had a text back...

"really sorry, I am so rubbish!! Maybe I could take x to see x football team (which my son does support, so he has paid a bit of attention I guess?) when the season starts? Life is just so busy...."

So maybe I did make my point and should forget it and accept that he and I have different expectations?

You must have known what he was like before you made him godfather so based on that YABU.

I know a few people who have special relationships with godparents, but many, many more who are no longer in touch. I would lower your expectations. Your son doesn't need a godparent.