To moan at a man parked in parent & child bay when he was clearly childless!!

[Nannyto2]

Had a lovely moan at a man parked in a parent & child bay today at a supermarket!! He told me to f**k off as he could park there as it was the first space he saw and he has a daughter at home!!!!

Carpark attendant saw the incident and told me I was out of order!!! As a result of this idiotic man parked in that space I had to struggle to get a infant carseat out of a 3door car in a normal space.

Was I unreasonable to have a go at the man??

Sorry for the long post

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stinkypig in answer to your question, the one time I did it was because my lungs weren't working and I would have had to sit down by the time I got inside if I had to walk from the normal spaces. I look perfectly fine though, was probably wearing some nice clothes, hair done, make up on, music in car, pretty little hand bag, people probably thought I was a bitch. Anyone who speak to me/walks beside me when I am that bad can hear me struggle for breath.

Oh, and I also forgot to add....

I can't be the only one who bangs the kids in the trolley, heads straight for the store, straight back out and back to the car whilst only keeping my eye on moving traffic? Why are you so bothered that you are looking over towards the spaces to be able to catch them out?

I may have a biased view, as when my uncle was dying of a Brain Tumour and could barely move far, yes, we used a P & C as we hadn't yet received his blue badge and couldn't park in disabled as they are enforceable. Some bimbo took it upon herself then to have a go at us, which confused my uncle and upset him A LOT. He was at the stage where it was changing him, and he was going back to a childlike self. He had no idea 9 times out of 10 that he had the Brain Tumour, and it was one of the last times we took him out before he rapidly deteriorated. Our last trip all out together ruined.

Seriously, HE had more right to that spot than a mother who doesn't have a disabling condition IMO.

Lots of old people struggle to get out of cars, maybe they deserve the places more.

The people with babies don't need them, they like them, AllPastYears.

Really, this is the fault of the supermarkets ultimately, who have bestowed this sense of necessity, and have enabled the attitudes that those spaces are for parents only.

In that respect, I actually don't blame the people who get annoyed about it, it's not ultimately their fault.

There is no way you should be banging another car getting babies out really. They are only wee.

stinkypig I x posted with your last post where you said about someoen ill needing it.

I would happily struggle to get kids out in a small space if it meant someone with broken leg/temporary wheel chair could have P&C space (as wouldnt have blue badge)

At the childrens hospital a neurosurgeon in a sports car always parks in disabled space near the door. Now THAT makes me angry!

A lot of Cancer, Heart failure etc can not be seen by the naked eye. How could you tell they was sick or not? Only finding out once they inform you after you have already gone into a rant at them?

Yes, there are people who are perfectly well and use them, but I wouldn't just assume because one looks ok, that one is ok.

So do all these parents who can't get their children out of the car without a P&C space go home if one isn't available?

What don't you understand, StinkyPig?

There is no need whatsoever for P&C spaces. This is why they are not a legal requirement for supermarkets to provide them.

If you have a problem with parking in a regular space, you should take it up with the supermarkets for not providing spaces that are big enough, not with other shoppers for doing nothing wrong.

Yes, sure, just like mothers don't need to get pushchairs on buses, they only like it.... P&C spaces make life easier for people who need a bit of extra help, and it is a struggle in many carparks to get a child out of a car in a normal sized space, without bashing the car next to you.

YANBU.

I had a couple of near misses over the years when trying to struggle across supermarkets with 3 under 18 months and a trolley(don't get me started with the logistics of getting 3 babies out of a car wedged in tight next to other cars).

My dc are 8,8 and 7 now and I never use p&c spaces as I know what it's like.Many new mums are also knackered,recovering and stressed.Walking across car parks rammed with cars(they are for more tightly packed these days) and people aggressively trying to get spaces is actually dangerous(people just zoom in with no regard) with lively toddlers.8 year olds have pretty much learnt traffic awareness safety.

I spoke to Sainsbos a couple of times and the staff at our local one were actually lovely,worried re safety themselves and did go out to check(or so I was told). Interestingly it got a lot better after my complaints.

Man in the op was a total selfish arse.If I can go shopping with 3 kids 8 and under and park the other side of the car park so could he.Op you weren't bu, some people are just extremely selfish ,not kind and just nasty.

Complain away and simply shop elsewhere if it isn't taken seriously.Mums of babies rack up huge bills and supermarkets know that,they want your custom.

I always park in the p&c spots at my local tesco as they are nearer the doors (blue badge)

Still waiting for someone to have a go at me so I can let rip

Op we resorted to sliding doors as of course it's nigh on impossible to get a babyseat out/back in when somebody has parked so badly they're on the line and the width between your car and theirs is half the width of said babyseat.

Honestly I wonder about people sometimes.Really Pickles you can't remember what it was like?

life's too short, get over it

People do not have to obey marketing notices though, Stinky. And that's what P&C spaces are. It continually amazes me how much crap this generates. It is utterly ridiculous.

Even if you can conceive of parents being more entitled to those spaces, you can't possibly know that someone parking there doesn't feel their needs trump those of a parent.

Listen stinky. One thing I will say is that I wouldn't even go to the supermarket with three under three. So i take my hat off to you!

stinky I agree with you there, problem is there are so many people out there who genuinely don't give a flying fuck about you, your children or other people in general. Sad but true that people are so thoughtless and actually quite selfish.

But it won't change, so best to grit your teeth, take a deep breath and let them go on their merry way.

The OP shouldn't have shouted at the man in the P&C space, that was arsey and none of her business.

The man probably shouldn't have parked there but, as they really are only put there by the supermarket for the convenience of parents, it's not enforceable.

I have no children but will park in the P&C spaces if I'm with my dad and there are no disabled spaces left (he is a blue badge holder). I've seen parents with young children park in disabled spots when there are no P&C spaces free, so it can work both ways.

I have a baby! Right now!

And in shit at parking, the p&c in my supermarket are like gold dust and I honestly manage fine.

I stay out if the melee and park out of the way. On the wonk usually..