to consider involving the csa?

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my exh pays 60 quid maintenance per week for his son who is 8. He has paid this since we split when ds was 8mnths. He earned 30k plus when we were together but as the director of the company wangles the tax to look like he earning less. I spoke to a lawyer years ago who said it is so easy to do this that if i went to the csa he could end up paying less despite my knowing that he earns 50k+ now.

Anyway for the past year every now and then the money misses a payment and i have to ask about it and tbh i am sick fed up of it. Would i be stupid to involve csa?

Pisses me off that he never buys him anything like school shoes etc yet is also unreliable with the little he does provide for him. If he buys him a fleece or jacket or anything it stays at his house and if he has it on when i collect him he makes him take it off and change into stuff from our house. Its quite sad.

would i be unreasonable to involve csa?

Have you actually spoken to him about the issues you have?

It depends on many thanks.
How ofen does he see his son? Does he have other children now?

More to the point, how do you know he is 'wangling' his tax and how do you know what he earns?

If you're really unhappy go to the CSA.

Really shitty to buy him things and make him leave them though. We never did this with my stepdaughter although we did point out that if she kept taking everything back to her, mums she wouldn't have anything left and that we wouldn't just buy her new stuff all the time.

From a SP point of view, we ended up buying SD lots of clothes that she took back, and her mother never bought her anything, despite child maintenance and so it can but both ways.

many things

cut both ways.

Fucking hell, sorry for typos

Owning (or part owning) a company is very different to earning 30K or 50K. The company may have a turn over of 50K. Very few CDs would be paying them selves massive wages and taking a tax hit. I dare say his accountant is advising him what he should legally be doing with his money. Tax avoidance and tax evasion aren't the same thing.

If he is waiting for invoices to be paid, a highly likely scenario in this economic climate where small businesses are going to the wall daily, then it is possible he won't have a personal regular cash flow.

Your solicitor is correct. If you attempt to involve the company finances, all your EX will do is reduce his own salary accordingly.

Your solicitor is correct. If you attempt to involve the company finances, all your EX will do is reduce his own salary accordingly

That may be so but that's why the CSA have powers for lifestyle inconsistent.

I do agree though, the presumption cannot be made that a business person is making a lot of money. They could be floundering in debt.

£240 is about right for one child & a lot more than most women get, but I can see why it would gall you if you know/think he is earning more.

Have you actually discussed it with him? Most men have no idea of the costs of bringing up a child.

Try & get him to help with trips/uniform one off things as an extra as over 8 years he hasn't increased it & keep your payments the same?

Set up an email address that you keep just for communicating with him ( google do free ones) so you can ignore the rest of the time. If he defaults on his payments wang off a standard email, asking for the money. Make a note of the dates & if it keeps happening get your sol to write a letter- it needs to be a STO that needs no effort from him, no excuse really.