Eating Together As A Couple

[PeachStrawberry19]

Who else out there gets really frustrated and feels disrespected when they have taken the time to cook lunch or dinner for them and their husband, then serve it up, call them, get response that they will be there soon but then sit alone and finish meal and just as finished, husband arrives to eat. I get my stomach tangled up in knots feeling like bottom of the pile and wonder why I bother trying to have a nice meal together. I would love to be cooked for and could come and eat as soon as possible, grateful that someone had made the effort to cook for me?

Why do you tolerate this? Is there any reason why he doesn't cook at least some of the time. He should be coming when the food is ready. Have you tried calling him about 20 minutes before the food is ready, and then if he comes to eat it before it is done you can explain why?

Yanbu. I has this issue with exp and it drove me insane as well as deeply hitting mu feelings. Exp would be on his laptop every time in the same room.
I went as far as enquiring earlier in the say when he would like to eat and did dinner for then. He still did it every time and I was a mug to tolerate it.
If I dared to complain about his bad manners I got an earful and a nasty atmosphere the test of the evening.

Sigh. There are many reasons I am getting divorced

Stop cooking for him. About a week should do it.

I just leave everyones to go cold if they dont come for it when its ready and take mine to the living room and watch telly ;)

Thank you for all your comments. He realised how annoyed I was and bought me a coffee to say sorry. I know he gets wrapped up in what he's doing but I do tell him when I am about to start cooking and then a count down to when it's ready. In my dream world, or if guests come around, I would wait for him to eat but because I know what he's like (and after 21 years of marriage), I start without him and just get anxious that he's not rushing to join me! I think I will take the advise to call him 15 mins before it's ready and then he might reach table just in time, or just leave it on the side for him to dish up his own dinner and enjoy eating alone while reading the paper or magazine. I probably am a bit too Stepford for 2012 but I like the idea of eating with my husband - esp today in the garden when such a beautiful day.

Why don't you wait for him to sit down before serving?

Also, get him to set the table.

We eat at 6.30pm so everyone knows when to turn up.

Can you dish up at the same time each day? Would that help?

maybe call him 10-15 mins before dinners actually ready?
highly stupid as a grown man should be able to sort himself out, but means you wont eat alone as hes had more warning?