I have this (ex)friend, whom I have known since high school but we got reacquainted with each other through baby groups after we had our DDs a few months apart. I also made a few other mum friends at the same time so there was a bit of a group of us. We have since gone on to have second DCs close together so I thought the friendships were cemented so to speak.
Then recently said friend fell out with me. I don't know if the reason is relevant or not. I really felt I hadn't done anything to deserve the falling out and I tried my best to be reasonable with her to a) maintain the group friendship and b) because our DDs were attending preschool together and were are good friends. However, things got worse between us and I have become quite resentful of the way I was treated by her.
Our DDs have been allocated places in different schools and following some name calling by said friend we agreed that the friendship would fizzle out but I remained civil with her until preschool broke up for summer. If I'm honest I'm relieved I don't have to deal with her anymore as I always felt very uncomfortable around her.
But recently she has got in touch saying that her Dd is missing mine and could we meet up. My initial reaction is that I don't want to for the reasons already stated. The problem is that I don't think she has many friends who have girls the same age as her DD who is quite a shy girl who doesn't make friends easily. I don't really have this problem since we have a large circle of friends with girls the same age as my DD who is very outgoing and makes friends easily so wouldn't necessarily miss my ex-friend's Dd's friendship especially as they won't be attending school together.
I do feel for this friends predicament but in the same token I don't want to maintain a pretence with her when there is no benefit to me or my family.
So AIBU to hold a grudge with this woman or should I let it go so that our DCs can remain friends? Sorry if that made no sense.