At weekends, we only ever do things as a family if I organise it. I'm sahm to 2 dcs so spend all week thinking and planning things to do each day so we don't all go mental with boredom being stuck in the house. DH will happily go along with whatever I've sorted to do on weekend days (eg suggstions to go out to the park, places to visit etc) but never arranges anything for us all to do himself.
Cue this week he mentions that he'd really like to catch up with his 'best' mate and his family who live not too far away from us, but far enough away that we don't see them all that often. Despite them being friends since forever, I really dont feel like i know him or his wife all that well as we just dont get together all that often. They are lovely but we don't have the kind of relationship where I would just ring them out of the blue - in fact, I dont even think i have either friend or wife's numbers. Dont have that much in common with them if I'm honest, but we still have a nice time if we get together so that's all fine.
Anyway, I reply to dh that we have nothing planned for this weekend, why don't you give friend a ring and see if they're about. He calls me later from work to tell me yes,he's just been chatting to friend on the phone and him and wife (and dc) are free this weekend and would like to meet up. Great, I think. But here's the bit that has pissed me right off - he then says have I got wife's number? Er, no. 'Well I've said to friend that it's probably easier if you ring her and sort it all out'.
I politely said, well no actually, that's not easier for me to do because 1. I don't really know her all that well, and 2. you were the one who said you wanted to see them so surely you are capable of coming up with an idea of somewhere to meet/something to do/ a time that is convenient for all and 3. I'm on my own all day with two children and if I get an uninterrupted 5 minutes I want to use it to have a wee on my own or something, not sort out your fucking life for you as you're a grown man. I didn't say that last part, but I wanted to.
Aibu to feel narked by this? Just once in a while it would be nice to feel like I didn't have to organise every bloody thing we do, and I feel like it is just pure laziness on his part expecting me to organise a day out with HIS friends. I'm sure in his head he thinks he is being helpful and 'putting me first' so that I can make plans the way I want them, but I made it clear that I had absolutely nothing organised for the weekend at all, and was happy to fit in with whatever he/they wanted to do. He hasn't bothered calling friend back, and is now in a sulk over me being 'grumpy' so as far as I know there is still nothing planned for the weekend. i.e. yet again, if I want to stop the dc climbing the walls I will have to sort something out for us to do myself. Again. Grrrr.