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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu to think when your own child has been in prison you do not get.....

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Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 20:35

Aibu to think when your own child has been in prison, dosent pay child support and hasnt seen his own child in nearly 11 years you dont get to call other peoples parenting choices crazy....

I really pissed to be honest

In the words of kathrine tate

Who very dare youAngry

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Original poster
Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 20:55

No i am not implying that late bedtimes is the reason why my ex went bad just suggesting grandpa has bigger worries than what time ds gose to bed

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Birdsgottafly · 10/08/2012 20:56

It's to late for him to worry about his own children, the damage is well done.

People like him lack the self awareness to hold back from criticising others.

HecateHarshPants · 10/08/2012 20:57

who is sharron?

Original poster
Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 20:58

JumpingThroughHoops its not imposed he lokes going to bed early he knows for himself how he feels when he hasnt had a good nites sleep

He avoids sleepover for that reason i did a thread a while ago about him camping in the garden everyone way like get him to invite a mate he dsent want to be kept up all nite so he would rather camp solo

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Birdsgottafly · 10/08/2012 20:58

Is this your youngest, has he accepted that the eldest doesn't want to see him?

TheSurgeonsMate · 10/08/2012 20:58

You see Hecate there saying what I was saying more clearly. But I think she's mistaken to remain so calm. He didn't just offer an opinion on your parenting. He said you were crazy and hadn't a clue! It's extremely aggravating.

Birdsgottafly · 10/08/2012 20:59

X post.

TheSurgeonsMate · 10/08/2012 20:59

By more clearly I mean Hecate more clear than me, not me more clear than Hecate

Original poster
Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 20:59

Birds thanks he made me feel really shitty

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Original poster
Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 21:01

Sorry every one bad post just feel really down troden by hom lately needed some mumsnet love i go away and crawl under my stone

I have a really hard week toped off by knob head granddad

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Kayano · 10/08/2012 21:02

Grammar!!! Good Lord!

Kayano · 10/08/2012 21:03

Sorry I'm struggling to comprehend it all Confused

Original poster
Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 21:04

I will get the thread deleted i feel bad enough

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Chubfuddler · 10/08/2012 21:04

I love Hecate. She says what I usually want to say but end up just saying "what the fuck is wrong with you?". So I won't say that. I'll say "what Hecate said" instead.

showtunesgirl · 10/08/2012 21:06

Is anyone else really Confused?

HecateHarshPants · 10/08/2012 21:06

hey hey! Don't you dare! You are entitled to rant and to ask for some support and to chat!

If he is making you feel bad, then you need some help in coming up with strategies. Don't crawl back under anything!

Birdsgottafly · 10/08/2012 21:11

OP all i would say is why are you letting a pair of fuck ups like them, upset you?

Your son is 'prof of the pudding' and your doing alone.

You need to convince yourself of this.

So in his world your DS should sit around in his clothes to be summoned to wherever he is? Fuck that right off.

flippinada · 10/08/2012 21:13

It's quite clear what you mean OP and you're not bu.

Ignore the snippy comments. Hecate is right.

MammaTJisanOlympicSumoWrestler · 10/08/2012 21:17

To the people finding fault with the grammar-Is it only people with a certain level of education who are allowed to ask for advice and support on MN? No? I though not!! Here you are Biscuit.

Now OP, we may feel that 8 is a little early for an 11 year old to go to bed, as may his grandparents, but TBH, it is noone elses business as long as you are not actively harming or neglecting your child. Your decisions are just that, your decisions. You are the parent, you get to decide. You may need to re negotiate the bedtime with your DS as time goes on, but that is up to you and to an extent, him!! You have done a great job by yourself, don't let anyone do you down.

Kayano · 10/08/2012 21:25

I only comment on it in extreme circumstances and to be fair it was pretty hard to understand and read. Confused

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Mrbojangles1 · 10/08/2012 21:27

I think he may be trying to find fault to negate his own sons short comings

At least o sodding been round to put him to be at 8 sorry i cant contuine any more going o have some ice cream and a cry feel very shitty today

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TheSurgeonsMate · 10/08/2012 21:30

I do hope you enjoy your ice cream and that the cry does you good.

HecateHarshPants · 10/08/2012 21:30
Thanks

enjoy your ice cream. Have a good cry and then, when you feel like it, come back and we can go over some strategies for dealing with him.

Don't let him make you doubt yourself. xx

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 10/08/2012 21:55

Hope you feel better soon.

Dont let him get you down.

travellingwilbury · 10/08/2012 21:57

Bojangles , love the name by the way , I can see why you feel shitty but you shouldn't , whatever the grandad said just ignore , you know your son and from what I have now understood after my pointless first comment . I think you should ignore the inlaws and carry on with the grand job you are doing and most importantly I hope the ice cream is good .

Don't you dare delete , you need company and here is where you will find it .