AIBU: Overdue

[MrGeresHamster]

40+3 today, so possibly hormonal and unreasonable but AIBU for:

1. getting fed up of people asking me if baby has arrived yet. I know it's well intentioned but it just reminds me as if I need it that baby overdue, and why people think I wouldn't tell them is beyond me.

2. DH has a cold and is at home therefore increasing possibility of giving it to me. Loving the prospect of giving birth with a cold and spending first few days with newborn with a cold.

3. Didn't sleep much as have pregnancy insomnia (had it as a teenager too) and have to pee all the time, DH wants company and isn't letting me lie in.

4. Midwife coming round this afternoon and will be doing a sweep. I'm really scared it won't work and I'll be still pregnant this time next week so they'll start pushing induction.

I know IA most probably BU, but surely this is allowed...?

YANBU
and you have an excellent name

YANBU as you are heavily pregnant, therefore bu is impossible.

Good luck!

YANBU and I would fucking kill DH if he didnt let me have a lie in when I was heavily pregnant, tell him to stop being a selfish prick.

You need your sleep. Labour is very tiring and you need your rest beforehand to prepare for it. Tell your DP to bugger off use his imagination and keep himself occupied if he wakes you up.

I recall being overdue, and it does get very tiring hearing the same thing day in day out. FWIW, I had a sweep and 3 days later I went into labour. Keep some faith, and RELAX. Honestly, it will not be long now.

Good luck.

Argh! I got very angry with the "have you had it yet?" and "any sign yet?" texts when I got to my due date. I can remember the rage :o I ignored everyone and only spoke to my DH and women who had already given birth as I felt they understood and everyone could get lost!

Seriously though you DH should let you sleep anytime you want. You need sleep for energy when you go into labour.

My get the baby to hurry up trick was an hour and 45 minute walk at a fast pace and sure enough DS made an appearance two days later. I think what would have been my mad clean the house and nest energy was put into stomping up and down hills!

You might remind your husband that you are going to need all of your energy for pushing a person out of you shortly, so perhaps he can find someone else to keep him company?

Get your arse back to bed. Tell dh to.watch tv, join MN, etc for company you need rest.

I hate those have you had it texts - ignore and let them speculate.

You can say.no to induction.

Oh, and have some cake. That helps everything.

Yanbu- I feel the same but am only 38+2. I'm bound to be late too (I was last time)

Turn your phone off, tell DH he's only allowed to keep you company if he combines it with making cups of tea/rubbing your feet/fanning you and go to bed. YANBU on any account!

Respond to the enquiries with "yes, but we aren't telling you". Confused the hell out of DH's family until they figured out it was a stupid question to ask.

Go to bed with a book and tell DH firmly that you need to be rested to deal with labour and a newborn, sometimes they lack empathy can't figure stuff like that out on their own.

You are NOT being unreasonable. At 40+3 anything you do is entirely reasonable.

Next time someone texts you asking if you have had the baby, reply with "Oh! Yes! Didn't we tell you?!?" then turn your phone off.

He wont let you lie in? Wtf???

As for inductions, they arent all hell. Some just need a pessary and they're off. You could try accupuncture, apparently it has quite a good success rate.

I go over due with my babies its really hard. With my first it was anyway with my second I knew he'd pop out eventually.

As someone who went to 40+11 and who also had pregnancy insomnia, there is no way on this earth that you are BU.

Hope baby puts in an appearance soon.

YANBU being overdue sucks, the worst bit for me was the constant queries as to whether I'd 'had that baby yet' - drove me insane! Switch your phone off, leave Facebook for a few weeks, unplug your land line etc and try and relax.

By-the-way you can refuse a sweep and induction - you have a lot of choice in these matters, a lot of people (myself included with DC1) don't realise this

YANBU.

My midwife told me that she was overdue with both of hers, and when people phoned her to ask if there was any news yet she really really really wanted to shout at them to eff off.

It's a tough time (my son was 41+1), hang in there.

I don't think it's possible for someone who is 40+ weeks pregnant to be unreasonable.

Tell your husband to piss off, and go and have a nap.

I've taken all your advice to heart and am still in bed, using DH's presence and requirement for entertainment for lying here demanding stuff. I've had three cups of tea (one had to be returned cold as I napped for a while), juice, breakfast and the washing has been done...

YANBU! you can cry all day while smashing plates and still NBU when 40+3.
I went 40+10 with DD1 and 40+13 with DD2, was induced both times, I found it HORRENDOUS and I dealt with it with a total lack of grace or patience.

Once the due date had past I basically refused to leave the house, answer the phone, look at emails etc. Those people who call you and say 'ooh have you had that baby yet??' are the worst I suggest you tell them 'Oh yes, I had it last week actually and FUCKING DIDN'T TELL ANYONE. Now FUCK OFF'

Btw, my experience of induction was totally FINE so don't be too worried about it, I know no one wants it in an ideal world but I had 2 easy quick labours, both under 7 hours and totally natural births so it's not always bad.

Good luck, I do hope it doesn't go on much longer

I started to reply to all the texts and FB messages stupidly querying whether I'd had the baby yet with 'I can't se to find the time to give birth as I'm too busy replying to texts/FB messages'. That put paid to most of them

And just to add...my experience of induction was fine too. Although I would highly recommend the epidural.

I was induced and gave birth at 40+11 and yadnbu for wanting to rest and have a lie in. I would have throttled my husband if he had woken me up at that stage in pregnancy!

The phonecalls etc are a nuisance. I did lose my rag at one point and said did people think I would have not told them if I'd had the baby? It was pointed out to me that being as I'd eloped and got married a week before without telling anyone then, yes, that was a possibility! In the end I took to updating facebook with the message "I'm still pregnant, baby is not yet here. Will update you all with any news :)" each day and also changed my answerphone message to say "If you're ringing to ask of I've had the baby, the answer is no but don't worry, I'll update everyone if anything happens. If you're ringing for something else, speak after the tone and I will get back to you" It worked :)

Also spent a lot of time tramping through fields with the dog and bouncing on my yoga ball watching downton abbey :)

Hope it all happens soon for you :)

YA so NBU

Tell your H to bloody manage on his own, you need rest.
I'm with you on the "have you had it yet" comments It used to drive me insane, especially to the people stood in front of me asking.... actually used to really bite my tongue to not say " I'm still the size of a cow that looks like it's due to explode soon so does it fucking look like it ROARRRR " of course I didn't say it lol

Good luck with the sweep (tell her to be as rough as she can sorry tmi) stay on your feet afterwards and hopefully nature will take over.
I went 40+5 with my last DS, had been slowly labouring since 40 when they done my sweep but the lil sod didn't want to move so I begged my consultant and he agreed to induce me (due to the fact I'd been ill and through a torturous pregnancy, i think he was scared for his life if he refused me that day lol)

Other things that worked with my other 2 - Sex/sperm- yes i know the last thing you want but it can help. Crawling the floor on my hands n knee's, the position forces the babies head onto your cervix and can get things going if you're ready, do it as long as you can manage -5 mins every hour or something similar.
The best of luck to you, hope your LO gets moving xxxxxx