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To ask her to cut short her 'holiday'

42 replies

dizzybiatch · 10/08/2012 07:53

Someone i know asked me if i would look after her dog for the weekend. I have a big dog, hers is even bigger. I have a small house and small kids.

I said yes because she said she was stuck for dog care. The dog drops weight in kennels and she didnt want to put her through that when she has just been in for a couple of weeks. She has gone 5 hours away to visit her new partner.

So far the dog has wet the floor, whenever she is in the garden she jumps the wall and goes off down the rd, she has initiated 3 horrible scuffles with my dog- first time she got up on my couch and before i could go over to get her off my dog had gone to sniff her and she jumped on him, second time she was sniffing my worktop where food was sitting and my dog went over, and lastly my dog went sniffing her bed. My kids are now feeling nervous around dog and she is quite licky/mouthy (in a friendly puppy way as only young) and tbh dog is bloody hard work.

She 'needs' to sleep near someone and so i put her in my room and this morning as soon my little one who co sleeps stirred she came over and started licking her face. She woke up in an absolute panic and it was an hour before we usually get up.

AIBU but i feel i want to ask her to cut her break short. My kids are back at school after the weekend and so this is our last weekend. She told me the dog would sleep all day but obviously in our house this just isn't the case. Im bloody knackered. Sad

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Toughasoldboots · 11/08/2012 00:43

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dizzybiatch · 11/08/2012 06:12

Fantastic 5.50am start on the last weekend before school goes back. Just brill. :( never again...

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dizzybiatch · 11/08/2012 06:17

tough we dont really know each other too well, just a mum in the village who has a child same age as one of mine. Not really a friendship to put at stake. Not close enough for her to fall out with me because her dog is being a pita. Hmm

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 11/08/2012 08:16

Ring her and tell her to come and get the dog, ffs. You're unhappy, your family is unhappy and nervous around the dog , your dog's unhappy, her dog's unhappy, and she's not even a good friend. Ring her now.

mirry2 · 11/08/2012 08:25

I would play on the fact that the dog jumps over the fence and runs away and that you're worried about its safety therefore can't look after it

dizzybiatch · 11/08/2012 09:36

I will maybe ring her today and fill her in. I have texted to say she is jumping fence but she said maybe she will stop when she realises they have gone as thinks she is looking for them. I tried putting her on a long extendable lead we use to tether our dog when he is unsupervised in the front garden but she chewed right thru it.

Her new trick is when she comes to me looking for a fuss, which i havent really been giving her tbh, when my dog so much as looks at her she starts snarling. She is clearly trying to establish herself as boss and take ownership of me.

Tired and counting down the days tbh.

I love animals and i feel bad because she is used to being the only dog, getting loads of love and fuss and that just isnt possible here. I feel nervous when they are round my legs because I know they can kick off any minute.

She won't come and lie in lounge because she starts pawing our dog to play fight and i just can't have 2 big dogs jumping around play fighting around my dc. When they visit this happens but we chase them outside but with her jumping the fence i cant do that.

Right going to stop moaning now. My fate is sealed. Only 36 hours to go......

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bumpybecky · 11/08/2012 10:31

I think you need to tell the owner that she must come and collect her dog today ( or arrange alternative care). Enough is enough. Sound like things are getting worse rather than better :(

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 11/08/2012 10:39

I have to say I would call her and tell her that its not working.

I look after my mums dog a lot and she is a pita (the dog not my mum actually her too) she is a rescue dog and has lots of issues, the only reason I still have her is because it was me that rescued her when I was still living at home and she is technically mine but is too attached to my mum to have her live permanantly with me, she has always had a temper when it comes to my very laid back dog (even when they lived together) I refuse to let my dog be bullied in her own home so if it was anyone elses dog I wouldn't hesitate to say they needed to come home as it wasn't working especially if it was also upsetting my children.

maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 11/08/2012 10:40

I'd ring her

You tried to do a nice thing, it didn't work out, that's life

It sounds as if everyone is miserable including the dog. It also sound like there's a possibility of the dogs fighting and that's not good for them or for you

PuppyMonkey · 11/08/2012 10:40

Ring her to get the dog, this shouldn't be your problem, it's her problem.

CondoleezzaRiceKrispies · 11/08/2012 10:47

If you're in the same village why not do as a previous poster suggested and take it home, where you can visit it and hopefully it will be calmer?

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 11/08/2012 10:50

If she's gone to visit a new partner it sounds as though this is going to be a regular thing, she is going to have to sort out something else, even if it was working out well, it isn't fair to ask someone to do it regularly as a favour.

BonzoDooDah · 11/08/2012 10:53

Urg nightmare. I'd get a thicker rope/unchewable one and chain the dog in the garden near some shade. Well out of reach of the children.
I'd keep the dog locked in the kitchen at night and be VERY firm with it every time it tries something.
Poor you.

But I DEFINITELY wouldn't have a strange dog in my bedroom where it could reach my sleeping child. Sorry but I'd rather lock it in the shed than have that. Hope you have a better day today.

MagicHouse · 11/08/2012 11:01

I think you should contact your friend and tell her that her dog is very upset being with you, that he has gone for your dog, tried on numerous occasions to run away and that your children are frightened. Explain that you would like for her to come home, but if that is not possible you will keep him away from your family in another room, or tied up (with a strong rope) in the garden. Keep saying the dog is really unhappy, that you are concerned for it, and for your children.
If she says "he's never like that for me" when she gets home, then I would just sweetly say "oh dear, you'll have to take him with you whenever you go away again then, because he's obviously really upset when you're gone and finds it very hard to cope without you."

dizzybiatch · 11/08/2012 11:35

magichouse thats the thing i reckon she prob is good as gold for her owner. I think she is missing her and used to being the baby.

She doesnt want to share with my dog and i think once she goes home she will crash out bacause she will be exhausted. I feel sorry for her but you are right it isnt working here.

I have spoken to owner and we have made a plan. Thank god. I am knackered!!

Thanks for all the support.

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RandomMess · 11/08/2012 11:40

Glad you've managed to sort out a plan sounds pretty horrendous.

I was about to suggest crating her!

zipzap · 12/08/2012 15:35

I hope the owner brings you a very large bottle of something you like to make up for your ruined weekend!

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