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to not want my parents to join us for part of our holidays?

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Belgianchox · 09/08/2012 20:19

Just that really. we have one weeks holiday in the year that we can spend as a family. this year we'll be spending it a my sister's apartment on the coast, she will be living elsewhere at the time. My parents live abroad and come to see us about once a year for dad, twice for my mum. Now they want to join us where my sister lives for part of the holidays, which is convenient for them as they'll see us, our children, and my sister at the same time. the problem is that no one really gets along, specially not my DH and my parents. Should I try to put them off (their initial plans were to come to us in spetember), or suck it up, it's a free country after all, i can't stop them from going where they want? I just know that our holiday will likely turn out miserable if they really go through with it. DH feels so strongly about it that he's willing to look for something else at the last minute. I don't want to upset anybody, but at the same time was really looking forward to relaxing for a week with my family. So, what's mumsnet wisdom?

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skateboarder · 09/08/2012 20:26

Can you not sell it to your dh that it means a week to yourselves in sept that you werent ecpecting if they were due to visit then? Difficult though as i wouldnt want to spend my hols with my inlaws.

Belgianchox · 09/08/2012 20:46

yes, i thought i could maybe put it like that, but the way he sees it they're totally invading our space during the holidays, and like it or not we'll end up spending time with them. I don't even want to spend my holidays with them so I can totally see where he's coming from, it's just I don't relish the thought of telling them we don't want this scenario to happen, there's really not a nice way of putting it is there?

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skateboarder · 09/08/2012 20:54

No there isnt, but holidays are precious times. If you do go, can you do things that you pre-booked without knowing they would be there, eg, visiting friends also on holiday in surrounding area. This way you manage their expectations.
Why do you not want to see them? Is it due to the fact your dh doesnt get on with them and it causes problems between the pair of you?

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