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To think dd is just messing and not having an identity crisis?

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 14:51

Dd1, 5 yo, is currently having a phase of telling other kids she is a boy.

She says it in that kind of 'seeing how much I can ake people beleive' way, and only to other kids.

'I am a bo, boys can have long hair, and my dress is just a disguise, and so is my face and my voice. I put the disguise on when the seed and egg mixed together o make me, and I will take it off when I am dead'

Then her friends keep asking me if it is true, and I say no, she is just messing about.

Dh says that I should agree with her, as she is allowed to self identitify... Which she is, but this isnt her self identitifying, this is just her tricking other kids, right?

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ImperialBlether · 09/08/2012 14:56

She wasn't watching that programme about the girl pretending to be a boy, was she? Grin

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 14:57

Sigh, the child already gets in arguments because she calls herself a feminist, and because people say that boys can't marry or be in love with boys or girls girls. She's gonna get herself a reputation for being bolshy at this rate :-)

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TheSmallClanger · 09/08/2012 14:57

She sounds very imaginative!

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 14:59

She is Grin

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 15:00

I might try answering with 'I don't know, I only saw her when she had come out of my belly...maybe she already had the disguise...'

Grin
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missymoomoomee · 09/08/2012 15:03

My 4yo is going through a phase of telling everyone she is a smurf who is only in our world to find a secret potion book. And when my other daughter was the same age she refused to answer anyone who didn't call her Pippin and she acted like a dog for about 3 months. I wouldn't worry about it.

bobbledunk · 09/08/2012 15:04

She's an imaginative child, don't worry about it. It's normal. Next month, she'll probably be a tree.

Clytaemnestra · 09/08/2012 15:06

My friend's little brother went through a YEAR of insisting that he was a duck. He quacked and only wanted spaghetti as he would pretend it was worms.

Turns out he wasn't a duck after all.

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 15:08

Oh, she is sometimes a penguin too!

(I haven't ascertained the gender of the penguin)

Grin
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Fecklessdizzy · 09/08/2012 15:22

DS1 spent his first year at pre-school as a cheeta, shortly after that he developed an imaginary tapeworm friend called Sebastian, who is with us to this day. Smile

Krumbum · 09/08/2012 15:27

She sounds awesome! Playing with gender roles, fighting the man. Love it!

KaFayOLay · 09/08/2012 15:36

My 5 yr old dd also thinks she is boy.
All the last school year was spent in trousers Hmm. I did manage to persuade her to put a skirt on that one day when the weather was warm Grin but it was changed before we left the house Wink

I don't sweat it, I'm sure she'll grow out of it sooner or later Smile

Zippylovesgeorge · 09/08/2012 15:39

I had a 5 year old who was Harry Potter - he'd only answer to Harry on some days - even his class teacher was kind enough to join in. If he was wearing robes and glasses he was Harry!

threeleftfeet · 09/08/2012 15:52

"All the last school year was spent in trousers"

I spent my entire childhood in trousers! Please don't force a skirt on her if she doesn't want it, i would have hated that personally!

(I do wear skirts and dresses as a grown-up btw!)

lovebunny · 09/08/2012 15:56

has she got former-life interference? some very young children report past lives as a person of a different sex.

Parkergirl · 09/08/2012 16:01

When my son was 5 he went through a 9 month pregnancy with twins - a boy and girl who were eventually 'born' and named Jessica and Chris. He was emulating one of his nursery staff who was pregnant at the time, but he was deadly serious about it. Even monitering his food as he was 'eating for the babies' and occasionally having sweets because 'the babies needed it'!

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 16:04

One of my cousins started school refusing to answer to his own name at ll - he would not answer to 'Spike'. Grin

He turned out normal...well, he didn't, but he is now 15, no 15 year old is normal :-)

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BrittaPerry · 09/08/2012 16:06

He would not answer to his name... He answered to Spike. Because that is a dogs name...

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Psammead · 09/08/2012 16:11

My neice, 8, often talks about the time when she was a boy. Turns out she'd seen her baby photos and had thought short hair = boy. She always referred to my DD as a boy too, until her hair grew a little.

HeadfirstOverTheHighJump · 09/08/2012 21:53

My dd2 has been a cat for the best part of a year. On her most catty days she will only walk on all fours at school and answer with a meow. One for yes, two for no Wink

HeadfirstOverTheHighJump · 09/08/2012 21:54

I'm not taking this as confirmation of being an actual cat, I'll have to reassess as she gets older Grin

squeakytoy · 09/08/2012 21:55

I am quite amazed at a five year old who knows what a feminist is. :)

MammaTJisanOlympicSumoWrestler · 09/08/2012 22:04

You 5 year old sounds awesome!! She would get on very well with my 5 year old DS.

My younger two DCs know that boys can love boys and girls can love girls as my older DD went through what I look back on as a 'phase', but was convinced was genuine at the time (as was she). I needed to prepare them a little!

I don't think my 6 year old knows what a feminist is, but she does know that mummy doesn't know how to use the hoover, Daddy makes the best packed lunches and Daddy puts them to bed and gets them ready for school every morning. She also knows that Mummy can fix things and that both mummy and daddy work, so we both look after them.

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BrittaPerry · 10/08/2012 00:54

I have a t shirt - questions were asked :-)

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ImperialBlether · 10/08/2012 10:48

My daughter knew what a feminist was at five too, squeaky. She asked me what the opposite was and we decided it was a 'daftie.'

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