Am I being a miserable cow?

[dollywashers]

Was looking forward to a nice afternoon at the park a friend and our 4 children . I arranged the meet up. Haven't seen her for ages. Just seen on fb she's invited another friend who I really don't like. She completely ignores her kids and they run riot hitting, throwing sand everyone etc.

AIBU to be pissed off and not even want to go anymore.

Is your friend aware that you don't like this other person?

Send your friend a message or call her and tell her then. Just say you don't like X and won't be going and hope they have a nice time. Then take your DCs somewhere else.

Not sure if she knows I don't like the other person. Just think its rude to invite someone else and not even tell me. Now trying to decide what to do.

I'd not go and I would tell her why but I am mouthy like that :o

I wouldn't go either, life's too short to spend with people you don't like and, more importantly, don't have any respect for you by letting their kids run riot.

Let them have their day out and take it up with your friend another time.

I wouldnt go either.

Life's too short to spend with people you don't like.

YANBU.

YABU to be pissed off, it's just a playdate and if your friend doesn't know you don't like the other woman it's not unreasonable of her to assume the more the merrier. Tactfully let her know this time and hopefully there won't be another time.

Just say you do not want to go as you do not enjoy the other woman's company. If she gets all huffy and takes it personal, forget her too.

I wouldn't go. I hate situations like that and my tolerance for them has decreased over time! People who don't watch their kids and allow them to behave badly is one of my absolute pet hates. It is nerve jangling! Good luck!

YANBU. I'd tell other mate why too

You need to tell her that you aren't keen on the other person and why. You don't have to be mean just be honest and say you are happy to rearrange for another time and see what she says.