AIBU to expect 21mo DS to say Mummy just occasionally??!!

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My DS is very sweet and loving in almost every way [smug emoticon] except that he NEVER says Mummy.

To add insult to injury he says Daddy about 90 times a day and will even sing Daddy Daddy Daddy to the tune of twinkle twinkle little star. He is able to identify Daddy, Grandma, Nanna and both his Grandads, both in photos and in person but when asked who I am he just looks bewildered and points at me.

9 months I carried him the disloyal little git! Breast fed him for 6 months, gave up my figure and my line free face and what thanks do I get? He can't even remember my name.

AIBU?

Mummy is often the last as he hears you name all the other people all the time. It will come and just think how much it will mean then.

Same here....except (sigh), when he REALLY wants me he will shout my name. Not 'mummy', but my actual name.

I thought when they were born they couldn't distinguish between their mum and themselves. Did I make that up? If it's true, maybe he's at that stage still!

Its true Imperial but only until about 8 months.

OP both mine are the same! Tonight DP said to DC2 14 months "Wheres mummy?" and he pointed to his head.

I am in the same boat with my DS who is 20 months! To add insult to injury, seems like all of the other little ones we know say Mummy sweetly all of the time. Maybe it is a careful what you wish for thing, and once they start we will be wishing for them to stop?

My DD is like this. I reckon it's because she doesn't need to say mummy. I'm always there anticipating what she wants so she doesn't need grab my attention - she always has it. Apparently she does say mummy at nursery so maybe get other people to listen for you.

I have the opposite problem - 19 month old dd never stops saying mummy (or more accurately mummeeee). It's her go to word whenever she wants / needs anything.

Not sure what this says about my parenting if gallicgirl's theory is correct

I was shopping the other day and a young mum and her own mum were fighting over who got to push the baby in his buggy. Baby was chattering away and they were then bickering (light heartedly..) about whether the child was saying mamma or nanna... about half an hour and another couple of shops later I walked past them again and this argument was still going on as the baby gurgled and chattered away... saying quite clearly Dadda!

YANBU. I feel betrayed too! All that BFing, co-sleeping, being at his beck and call and nothing. No loyalty to mummy!

DS (18 m) always says daddy (even nursery said yesterday he was saying it all day) but rarely says mummy.

The only time he says it is when he's cross in the morning because he can't get downstairs because the stairgate is closed

DD (3.4) on the other hand says mummy repeatedly a thousand times a day. Hopefully DC3 will find a happy medium!

I'm still waiting for dd to say mummy, and she's 4!
Your ds doesn't need to say mummy, you are there, and with him when he needs anything.

DD2 (16 months) says "Mumma" a lot. DD1 didn't say much of anything at that age and didn't say Mummy much at all until around 2 years. I guess DD2 has to compete for my attention a bit more. Or maybe she's just an earlier talker.

I'm with Egdeh- I get mummmeee constantly from DD, 20 months. I wish she'd say something else! Although this week she has started 'hand' which means 'hold my hand and come with me and do what I want'!

My DS didn't call me Mummy until he was well over 2 yo.
We were at my SILs, all the cousins were playing and there was a sgriek "Mummy..."

I knew it wasn't DS because he never called me it (it was my nephew shouting)

Just to warn you the mummy thing may be shorter lived than you expect:

All I get from my 3 (last week) year old is 'mum' these days. Drives me nuts! I thought she'd be about 6 before she started getting self-concious about the mummy thing but oh no... Used to be 'mama' and I loved that.

The 18mth old sometimes calls me 'Cathy' which I ignore until she uses 'mama/mummeeeee' .

It is because you say 'daddy' all the time and they don't hear 'mummy'as often.

"The 18mth old sometimes calls me 'Cathy' which I ignore until she uses 'mama/mummeeeee' "

If that is your name, and she hears other people calling you that, then why on earth would you ignore her???

Dd2 (also 21 months) says Mumeeeee a lot. I wouldn't mind but I keep telling her there's an O in it and she isn't listening...(from West Midlands, not America before anyone asks).

DS is 23 months and mummy is not in the vocabulary of less than 10 words that he says.

My 20mo never stops saying mummy unfortunately he is asking for his dummy

Up until last month my dd insisted on calling me Bah! (always with the exclamation mark). We have no idea where it came from as it's nothing like my name either. Now I'm mumma though. Now all we have to do is stop her calling my mum Dah!