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To be worried about my friend getting pnd?

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louloutheshamed · 08/08/2012 19:26

I am interested in if there are ways of predicting pnd and or risk factors. I have a friend who is oh with her it's child obviously i am delighted for her but, and I know this might sound odd, I am worried that she is quite likely to get pnd.

She has quite depressive tendencies anyway, for as long as I have known her. I mean in terms of mood swings, can become v withdrawn for long periods and is anxious in some social situations to the point where others who don't know her find her rude. She has also recently, as in within the last year lost her dad who she was very close too. She does not work and has recently moved with her husband to the other side of the country, away from her family and her ils, who she is also close to, and hey have bought a v remote delaipdated house which they are doing up. I jut have a feeling that a combination of these factors could mean that she is more prone to pnd, although I realise it can't be predicted like that!

On the plus side she has a v supportive dh and has dreamed her whole life about being a sahm in the country which is about to happen.

Do you think she is vulnerable and if so what can I do to support her, given that I no longer live close by? She is quite proud and does not openly discuss her problems really.

I am worried as although I didn't have pnd I remember the complete shock of having ds 18
Mo ago. I don't mean to sound negative about her pg as I am v happy for her by also can't help feeling a little worried.

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louloutheshamed · 08/08/2012 19:27

Should be pg with her first child

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DefenceAgainstTheDarkArts · 08/08/2012 19:30

According to various online tests, it's almost a certainty I'll get some form of post partum depression. I hope I'll manage to avoid it but I hope being aware will help at least a small amount.

louloutheshamed · 08/08/2012 19:48

Yeah I wonder about how aware she is. Or, how prepared she is to admit to herself that it is likely.

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DefenceAgainstTheDarkArts · 08/08/2012 19:51

Maybe just mention that having lost a parent and being isolated she may be vulnerable without bringing other MH problems into it? I have never had MH problems diagnosed, though I am prone to depression linked to my period, but I have lost my parents, will be a single parent and therefore tick a lot of "lacking support" boxes.

Good luck with helping your friend x

louloutheshamed · 08/08/2012 20:28

Yeah that is a good suggestion thank you!

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