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To be annoyed with being offerred another two bedroomed property?

40 replies

NettOlympicSuperstar · 08/08/2012 18:54

I live in homeless accommodation, it's fine, not a B&B, a perfectly decent flat. I've been here just over a year.
Because of my disability, I am classed as needing a three bedroomed property, either ground floor, or with stair lift.
My flat is first floor.
I don't mind staying here whilst waiting for a three bedroomed place to come up, I don't even mind moving to a ground floor two bed, so long as they keep me at the top of the list for a three, but that they have now tried twice to push me into a horrid block full of damp is taking the piss no?

OP posts:
onemoreminute · 08/08/2012 19:35

Why does having a disability mean you need an extra bedroom ?

FermezLaBouche · 08/08/2012 19:37

I think this thread has a lot of potential to become nasty quite quickly, as they sometimes do. OP would you mind sharing why your disability means you need a 3 bedroom place?

WorraLiberty · 08/08/2012 19:38

No idea really

You haven't said if there's just you, if you have a DP or a family?

Obviously you haven't mentioned why having a disability means having more than one bedroom.

BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 08/08/2012 19:40

You know your going to get Torch for this.

You can't whinge and not give us any info!

BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 08/08/2012 19:41

Oh, and if you are homeless/in homeless accommodation, then you don't have much of a choice to take what they are offering you.

Take what you are offered and be grateful do your place can go to someone who needs it!

piratecat · 08/08/2012 19:42

are you hoping for a three because of amount of children?

Mrbojangles1 · 08/08/2012 19:42

Unless op was hoping because she is disabled no one qould wuestion why u need a extra room

grobagsforever · 08/08/2012 19:44

Sorry OP - you need to give more info.

Mrbojangles1 · 08/08/2012 19:44

Any one who has ever delt with housing will know unless you have at least 4 children their is not achnace you will get a 3 bedroom and rightly so nothing wrong with children sharing

MaryQueenOfSpots · 08/08/2012 19:46

An extra bedroom will likely be needed for all the equipment that goes with having a physical disability where you can't move yourself.

The hoist, the electric wheelchair, the mobile shower-commode chair, the spare manual wheelchair for when your electric wheelchair doesn't work.

I'm an OT - I clutter people's homes with ugly, but essential large items which need storing.

piratecat · 08/08/2012 19:46

yes that's what i meant, she might have 4 children, hence the need for 3 beds.

OddBoots · 08/08/2012 19:46

Is the third bedroom for a carer?

EleanorHandbasket · 08/08/2012 19:47

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Moominsarescary · 08/08/2012 19:47

mrb that's not strictly true

Op don't know if yabu or not, not enough information

EleanorHandbasket · 08/08/2012 19:48

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Kladdkaka · 08/08/2012 19:49

OP said she was 'classed as needing a three bedroom property' because of her disability. Which reads to me that this is the category someone official has said she fits into, not something she has decided.

I can believe that. My Nanna and Grandad were moved out of their one bedroom flat into a two bedroom bungalow because of his disability. His condition meant that he couldn't reasonable share a room with my Nanna anymore.

Camelsshouldnteatcrisps · 08/08/2012 19:50

I thought that it was all changing soon and that even if you needed an extra bedroom for a carer to sleep in or for equipment you would no longer be eligible (I am no expert...and think that the one size fits all rules, as usual are going to make more peoples lives a misery), but if they offer you a 3 bed OP , may they not then have to move you again to a 2 bed when the rules change?

MaryQueenOfSpots · 08/08/2012 19:50

The other factor could be (I don't know Netto) but she may have a rapidly progressive disease which will mean she will need a live in carer, hence the extra bedroom.

GhostShip · 08/08/2012 19:50

One room will be for hoists and wheelchairs, other equipment.
One for the OP
Third one though? Carer maybe?

pouffepants · 08/08/2012 19:51

I got a 3 bed with 1 child.

Dh was disabled and needed night care at least 10 times a night, so 1 room for him, 1 room for carer 3 times a week when I was too knackered to do the care, 1 room for ds.

It meant I still had to sleep on the sofa when we had care in, and get up at crack of dawn when carer left.

It took 5 years to get this house, and the lift was bang in the middle of the front room.

Don't know what op's situ is though.

Kladdkaka · 08/08/2012 19:53

EleanorHandbasket

There are various options for people who own their own houses. The council can come in and do some adaptions or you can apply for grants for major changes. I know one family who got a grant to have an extension built for their disabled son. A room specifically adapted for him with an accessible on-suite.

pouffepants · 08/08/2012 19:53

Oh and no-one thought to check when designing this house form scratch that a bed would fit into the bedroom for the nights I was in there. So another 5 years on a camp bed.

WorraLiberty · 08/08/2012 19:54

OP said she was 'classed as needing a three bedroom property' because of her disability. Which reads to me that this is the category someone official has said she fits into, not something she has decided

That's a good point Kladdaka, I suppose everything else is irrelevant...perhaps that's why the OP left so much out.

Either way, no-one should be forced into a flat that's full of damp no matter what their health is like.

EleanorHandbasket · 08/08/2012 19:56

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creighton · 08/08/2012 20:01

you need to speak to your housing provider to clarify you bed size and why you qualify for that size. get it in writing.
the housing allocation group may feel that you will be tired of being in homeless accommodation for a long time so are offering you the 2 bed. tell them that you would rather wait for the 3 bed even if it takes a long time.