Unreasonably wound up about my parents!

[two2blackcats]

Oh, dear, my dad (DM died) and DSM are basically good people but so so SO annoying! I know I am being unreasonable, but WHY does my dad take a bloody flask filled with tea/coffee everywhere and then look at me as if I have grown two heads when I offer them a drink?

Why is having two cats so extraordinary? Always I get "How is the menagerie?"

Why do they both insist on telling me in great detail about their trips - it isn't "we went to he lakes and had a lovely time" it's - "well, we were due to go at 8 but then DSM wanted a cup of tea so we had the tea and decided to have a spot of breakfast and ended up boiling an egg! It was nice. The eggs actually came from and ..." SCREAM!

I feel so mean every time I feel my blood pressure rising too :(

Oh be nice. It's annoying but that's how a lot of older people are. They're not going to change now, so value them while they're here because when they're gone you'll miss their boring stories.

I know - but honestly, it does drive me absolutely crazy

Hahaaa....yeah, my in-laws are like this. Its like, they MUST remember the exact day they did something...just saying 'last week' isnt good enough, and they never can remember, so I have to hear them try to figure out what day it was by what TV they had been watching, and what had been happening IN that TV show.

Take my advice......learn to tune it out.

I do that I tell the whole story, I drive DH batty

Oh tell me about it, when I lived at home and saw my gran regularly I did worry I would just start screaming "Shut up! shut up!" when she started on her "You know, gina, the one who used to live next door to Norma, not Norma Daly now, the other one, oh what was her second name, anyway you know the one Norma with the red hair, anyway what was I talking about oh yeah Gina, well her cousin Fidelma, you might have met her once, she has two sons, she has a sister called Bernadette, never liked her...." and on and on. Bear in mind I have not the first clue who a single one of these people is. Nod, smile, drink gin.

Does he add a little extra something to the flask?

hehe, I have a FIL who sounds very similar, he is a lovely man but sooooo boring, if you have a 30 minute conversation you maybe get one sentence out, the rest of the time is him on about Wales or caravans or cars and every story involves telling me the exact roads he drove on to reach a certain destination.

Haha, my dad does this too, drives me potty. It takes him 10 minutes to tell me something that would take 30 seconds in normal person language.

And my inlaws have extensive detailed conversations about the routes to get to places. The mention of the M1 sends me out in hives because I know I'm going to get a minutely detailed comparison of how long it takes to get from one place to other, and whether it's better to use the Mfecking1 at such and such a time or whether it's better to cut to the A-IDONTGIVEABLOODYSHIT at 12:01 on Friday before a bank holiday. Unfortunately we'll all end up just as dull.

Oh yes ... the "which route we took."

I did once screech, "dad, we'd have been there by now" as he spent so long dithering the benefits and drawbacks of which route to take to see family friends on the other side of town - tenminutes!

He went all huffy with me then!

This has made me laugh, I know it is irritating and I have similar family members.

PIL used to be like that with stories. Only you couldn't possibly move on until they had remembered Bobs surname, even if you knew exactly which Bob they were talking about. And FIL also used to take 10 mins to tell a 30 second story. I used to sit there wanting to find his key and wind him up to go a bit faster.

YES Lemon!

Half the time, my dad wanders on such a tangent he forgets what the original story was! Just I'm breathing a sigh of relief he remembers and it's, "Oh yes! So back in 1979 when Ted Fisher had just joined us ..."

Arghh!

It's making me laugh how many of us seem to have similar parents/PILs!

I get the same thing. With my DM it's "I went to the shops today and I found a lovely skirt which was marked as £50 but it was half price so that made it £25 but then I got another 20% off with my card so it was £20 and then the nice lady at the til took another £10 off so I got a really good skirt for only £10 and then I saw a cardigan and how much do you think that was....."

also the stories about Mary's husband Jack's second cousin Sarah's eldest boy who you were at school with... (no, that was my sister, I have no idea in the world who you are on about, and I care even less!)

This is universal! my parents do exactly the same, but in their language. Sometimes I cut such conversations with a "have I ever met that person you are talking about?" (of course the answer is always NO). But most times, I just disconnect and "listen".