To think that if you insist on having loads of ornaments and nick-nacks in your home

[KissMyEmbroideryHoop]

then it's inevitable that your 2 year old will search and destroy?

My friend is doing my bonce in as she keeps asking me what she can do about her 2 year old who repeatedly goes for her ornaments and framed photos.

She's got nick-nacks and photos in propped frames ALL over the house and goes mad at her DC when he tries to get at them. She says "she has to learn!" and tells her off but she keeps going at them...of course she does! She's 2 and there are china giraffes right in her reach!

I told her to put them up high or put them away till she's older but she seems t think she's being unreasonable and that she will learn to not take her frames apart and tear the pictures inside....and that she will learn not to grab her vases of twigs and snap the contents.

AIBU to think that you just have to put these things away or high up? And that telling a child off over and over isn't on?

I got a big wooden cabinet with shelves & glass doors to store ornaments from TK Maxx.
Now i don't need to dust them.
If there was a toddler around i would attach a lock to the cabinet.

(When my friend's very naughty & scarily intelligent 2yr old visits - she can't get the door open. If she could then i'd get a lock.)

I'm not sure if I'm glad there are other compulsive fiddlers out there or just sorry for their long suffering parents.

DD1 is dyslexic and doesn't pick up social clues very well. No just seem to sink in for all of 20 sec.

She knows she isn't going to break thinks so she simply doesn't remember not to fiddle.

DH and I are scientists, my Dad's an engineer as was grandpa. She shares our desire to understand the world.
At 14 she has two technical adult exams to her name. So perhaps there is an upside to it.

Starball, you could be describing my DS, except he is dyspraxic not dyslexic. He loves to explore, and if there is something on a shelf, it has to be fiddled with. Its almost like a compulsion to him

If we go to friends that aren't child-proofed I have to foloow him about, quietly reminding him to keep his hands to himself!

We have a compromise in our house, mostly there is nothing within reach, but there is stuff on the mantlepiece. DS is 2 and is able to understand the mantle is not for him. We managed to teach him this because it is just one place to guard!

Yes my ds1 takes after his father and grandfather (both engineers), he has to hold and fiddle and work things out. I've only realised this when he came home from school and announced he was a Kinesthetic learner. Which is why my telling him to stop fiddling never worked!

Kinesthetics need to manipulate things. These are the people who need to take two things and add them to two other things to know that there are four things. Kinesthetics don?t like to work with theory or hyperbole as much as they like to take physical objects and change them. Kinesthetics have the hardest time in school because they need to make the changes to words and objects themselves rather than watching the teacher do it. Kinesthetics who have a scientific bent are likely to be drawn to the physical sciences where the changes they effect are apparent. People who are Kinesthetic are almost always also Tactiles.