I rang someone, admittedly for a favour. The first thing I did when the phone was answered was to say "I am sorry to bother you. Is this an OK time for you to talk?" When told it wasn't, I apologised and said goodbye.
About half an hour later. I sent a quick text, apologising for having disturbed friend and wishing them well.
I then received a "What do you want?" reply. Anxious not to ring, I sent another quick message to say not to worry and to take care. I got a curt response.
Yes, it is a shame I rang (after a funeral, not friend's relative, someone disliked by friend actually!) but I didn't launch into a request. I checked if it was OK to speak and rang off and then apologised twice for interrupting her.
Friend is clearly irked with me. She is not grief-stricken. She has been behaving oddly for a while (possible depression? - but she thinks depression is for weaklings like me 
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I really don't think AIBU - I just want to get it off my chest. I think this friendship is going down the pan. She is not the sort of person you can have it out with either. Last time I unwittingly offended her (similar time last year - no major issues at time) she told a mutual friend that I was attacking her.
God, it's a bit playground/teenagery. Our DCs quite like each other and they live close by but I think I've had enough.