Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be a bit pissed over this?

12 replies

FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 17:47

My mother had my 4dc for me for a day a few weeks ago. A month or so ago she was given a big trampoline that doesn't have a safety net. I didn't know about it until my dd1 (7) mentioned it and that she had already fallen off it. I asked dd1 and dd2 to not go on it until it has a safety net and explained why. Dd1 is being assessed as possible aspergers/autism and in particular has very little regard for personal safety. Telling her to be careful on a trampoline with no safety net would be fruitless.

So off they go and when they come back, I asked them if they had been on it. They both said no and I said I was proud of them for listening to me and understanding my concerns with their safety. Thought no more of it.

Until one day last week my mother comes to visit. She starts telling me how the girls told her they weren't allowed on it. How she then caught them on it anyways and reminded them I had said they weren't to go on it. They replied that they would be careful so she left them to it.

She knew I had said no, yet allowed the girls to continue and actually told me as much. She also mentioned how funny it was when dd1 fell off the trampoline she lay there for a minute then said, I think I broke a bone, before getting up and going back on.

I didn't say anything to my mother because she did me a favour and at her place I suppose it should be her rules, but in all honesty I don't care. I am actually really miffed about it all. Aibu to want to tell her as much and that i do not want them on the trampoline without a safety net regardless if any reason?

OP posts:
WelshMaenad · 07/08/2012 17:50

I'm not personally convinced that the safety nets are much cop and with 4 of them I'd teach the other 3 to 'spot' the one bouncing. This was the setup at the competitive trampoline club battened as a child/teen.

However if you said no, some respect for that would be nice. Can you buy a net to go on the tramp?

WelshMaenad · 07/08/2012 17:51

Battened? I attended

Fucking iPhone!

FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 17:52

I don't think my younger two were on it but apparently there were another four kids on it too, so six of them I believe.

It may be possible in the future but currently a bit strapped for cash, lone student parent and all that.

OP posts:
EduStudent · 07/08/2012 17:54

Are you in a position to afford to provide the safety net?

I don't think YABU for being peeved at your mum.

EduStudent · 07/08/2012 17:56

Ah, x-post. Is your mum planning to buy one and being slow, or refusing?

Also, I think spotting is fine in a supervised club, not so much in a garden without trained adults on hand.

WelshMaenad · 07/08/2012 17:57

There wasn't an adult on hand? Hmm

FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 17:58

She is planning to have one built I believe.

OP posts:
tartyflette · 07/08/2012 17:58

Do you mean pissed off? Or are you from the US?
(pedantic, moi? )
And no, you're not BU to be pissed off -- she doesn't seem to give a shit about your concerns about safety. (Or that your girls lied to you about the incident).

FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 17:59

I presume my mother would have been keeping an eye out. The other kid were neighbours children who had incidentally given her the trampoline....as they had bought a new one, with a safety net.

OP posts:
FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 18:00

The joys of an iPhone, I dd mean pissed off!

OP posts:
FateLovesTheFearless · 07/08/2012 18:00

Hmm did!

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 07/08/2012 18:18

IMO trampolines aren't toys.
So - a safety net alone isn't the answer. For one thing they are not safe at all if more than one child is on them at a time. And unsupervised use is just madness.

In this case I don't think Her House Her Rules applies.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page