long story short - my FIL has never liked me and in all honesty has done nothing to hide that fact. However my DH refuses to upset his dad by mentioning his behaviour, as he is still in the habit of protecting him from when his mother had an affair and left. Anyway it all bubbled over on Saturday night when we'd all had too much to drink in our house and his father and I had a tremendous argument, culminating in my telling him to get out of my house as soon as he woke on Sunday and not to come back. DH and I had a huge fight coz once again his dad gets away with saying whatever he likes. At this point I should admit that I was hideous to both DH and his dad on Sat as it all just came out irrationally. DH and I have now talked and he has agreed that me and our son need to come first and we will be more of a 'team' when it is needed, but he wants us to carry on visiting his dad and stepmum 'as a family'. I do not want to be in that environment, at least until DS is old enough to cotton on that I'm never there when he visits his grandad and then perhaps I will need to grin and bear it. AIBU? DH and I just cannot reach a compromise for some reason and I want to know if I should just do as he asks.