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AIBU to suggest my husband do something about his snoring so i can get some sleep?

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Poodlepower · 07/08/2012 13:20

Isn't sleep deprivation a form of torture. It's worse than when my DDs were newborn babies. Constant waking all night every night. I can barely function...no spare bedroom but even if there was shouldn't he just try to lose a bit of weight (which he says he wants to do as he is unhappy with what he has put on).

Instead if i mention that the snoring is having a massive impact on my life i just get tutted at. I feel so resentful when i am too exhausted to play with my children or exercise after they have gone to bed i have seriously considered divorce!!!!!

I'm so tired..it feels as though he has more right to a nights sleep than me!

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 07/08/2012 13:23

You could point out that snoring can be a sign of more serious health problems and pack him off to the GP who will most certainly tell him to lose weight. He may have Sleep Apnoea.

[http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Snoring/Pages/Introduction.aspx]][

Does he realise how bad his snoring is? Could you record him.

TeacupTempest · 07/08/2012 13:26

Yanbu I feel your pain but its not easy to tackle and may not be weight related. My DH is a healthy weight and still snores like a beast! More so when he is ill or has had a drink.

Bonsoir · 07/08/2012 13:27

Losing weight will in all certainty make a difference, but in fact just eating lightly in the evening will help your DH's digestion and make snoring less likely. Feed him vegetable soup and stewed fruit for dinner!

FalseStartered · 07/08/2012 13:30

the only way i could get DH to see how much his snoring affected me was to get up and sleep on the sofa

not the best way to deal with it, but it made him realise that i was being driven from sharing a bed with him

he then went to his GP, had tests for sleep apnoea and now uses a steroid spray daily.

we can now share a bed and he sleeps better too

stargirl1701 · 07/08/2012 13:31

My DH has similar issues. Angry It's a total nightmare.

I've found anti-histamine makes a difference. I think DH has a dust mite allergy. He also has to sleep in the spare room if drinking as that makes it much worse.

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Poodlepower · 07/08/2012 13:31

Teacup don't say that it's not what i want to hear!!! We have been together 12 years the snoring has come with the weight so i really hope it goes with the weight.

He is constantly saying he wants to lose weight but doesn't seem to do anything to help it (always in the fridge eating anything available)! I cook Weight Watchers meals, try and get him to do exercise with me or on his own - apparently he wants to lose weight BEFORE he starts exercising! WTF!

I don't go on about the weight as i don't care what size he is - its the lack of sleep that is taking over my whole life!

I fear one night i will be menacingly hovering over him with a pillow!

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achillea · 07/08/2012 13:32

I sleep in with my dcs for this reason, have a little sofa bed set up and kip in there. It took me 10 years of exhaustion. He was huffy about it and won't accept it as 'normal' but there are plenty of people out there who sleep in separate rooms. You are right, it's torture, it's not fair to have to put up with this when you have to be up early in the morning.

You can get gadgets in the chemist which emit an electric shock when they snore but not sure if they work.

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Poodlepower · 07/08/2012 13:32

I did record him once but he didn't believe that was him - said it was a joke!!!!

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BlueBirdsNest · 07/08/2012 13:33

did he nore before you made babies with him?

you might snore too?

NatashaBee · 07/08/2012 13:33

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FalseStartered · 07/08/2012 13:33

that's what i meant, star anti-histamine nasal spray, like you'd use for hayfever

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 07/08/2012 13:33

I too share your pain :( I never get a full nights sleep unless he's on sofa

surroundedbyblondes · 07/08/2012 13:39

My DM is a snorer. It's terrible when she stays with us or we stay at her house. DF is partially deaf, which probably helps in their case. She has the cheek to complain about his snoring though. She first tries to laugh it off when anyone tries to talk to her about it, then just gets sulky and claims she's being picked on (she's v overweight). Most frustrating!

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Poodlepower · 07/08/2012 13:40

Bluebirdsnest he did not snore before we had children and no i do not snore. I don't mind a bit of snoring but it is constant all night and the volume is immense and i am not a light sleeper either!

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Poodlepower · 07/08/2012 13:42

LOL at the thought of the electric shock device! I might suggest that and see how it goes down!

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achillea · 07/08/2012 13:57

They call it 'biofeedback' but I call it electrick shock. Better than a dig in the ribs, which is what mine used to get.

www.lloydspharmacy.com/en/stop-snoring-advance-digital-device-35645

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