Skirts at soft play?!

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I'm at a soft play with my DS (a naice one so that's not the AIBU! ) and there is a little girl who is about maybe 3-4 playing in the soft play.

She is in a nice top and skirt. The skirt is quite short (but not inappropriate (it's a flared frilly number and is actually quite cute!), and she isn't wearing any tights or leggings underneath.

The mum is sitting at the side shouting in at frequent intervals "PULL YOUR SKIRT DOWN XXXX, I CAN SEE YOUR PANTS! THAT'S NOT NICE!"

Now, the little girl is looking increasingly distressed with every bellow - and has stopped climbing up onto the high levels and is just sitting in the ball pit looking miserable.

AIBU to think that if you put your DC in a skirt (or allow them to pick a skirt) knowing they are going to soft play, then you shouldn't bellow at them every 2 minutes! Knicker flashing is almost guaranteed - and no one really cares!

Feel really sorry for the kid, and feel I should tell the mum to let her play in peace!

YANBU, what was the point in bringing her? Poor mite.

YANBU poor little girl it is just a pair of pants . maybe go over and tell her that leggings go lovely under skirts and then tut at her

Poor kid.

We were at soft play on Sunday, sheltering from the torrential rain/thunderstorm outside. Two women with their kids came in and the toddler boys took their wet trousers off and went to play in their pants. No one cared.

If the mother is that bothered, she should have put her in shorts or put a pair of leggings under the skirt. Who's going to be bothered if they can see the odd glimpse of a small girl's underwear? I bet nobody even noticed until the mother pointed it out.

I think a short skirt is more sensible than a long one, though. I've seen girls at birthday parties at soft play in long, sometimes quite elaborate, party dresses and they do seem to hamper their fun a bit.

I used to take longs shorts or leggings when my dd wore a skirt/dress to soft play - not because of her knickers being on show, (she's always flashing her knickers ) but to prevent friction burns from the slides, ropes etc.

Poor wee lass

YANBU

Poor girl.

I always take leggings with me to softplay because of the friction burns as madrose mentioned.

My DD2 is a skirt/dress fan - will only wear trousers to school or Beavers.

A couple of years ago, when we went they'd just polished the slide and she ended up with a burn.

Not that fussed about showing her knickers tbh, they're just knickers - although I always check to make sure she's wearing them after a bum flashing episode in a pub garden

I'd be worried about friction burns too, but not flashing her knickers, she's a little girl!

Have you ever tried to get a self opionated clothes mad four year girl into clothes she doesn't want to wear. I was often just happy she clothes on. Though I was of the if you wear that if everyone see your knickers it's up to you - I was picking my battles.

YANBU.

I dont get the point though that it is impossible to dictate to a child what they should wear.

If your child was going swimming and wanted to wear a superman outfit, you wouldnt allow it, they would be told swimming costume/trunks, or no swimming. No debate, no discussion.

Soft play should be the same. Wear suitable clothes, or dont go. End of conversation.

aww :(
yanbu

Yanbu!! Either dress the poor kid appropriately for the activity or turn a blind eye like everyone else will be doing no ones looking at a three yr olds pants! to the odd flash. She's having fun leave her be poor girl :(

My DD had urinary infections as a toddler and as her skin used to get so sore the GP advised that where possible we let her run around without knickers. So at home she wore dressed with nothing underneath. She was a very sensible little soul though and always put her pants on to go out.
One afternoon I took her to Granny's for a change of scenery and told her not to bother with her knickers as we were only crossing the road to the car and would pull up right outside Gran's. She had a knee length skirt on so, dubiously, thinking all her bits and pieces were safely covered, off we went.
Crossing the very busy road to the car she tripped on the kerb and did a huge forward roll along the pavement, flashing her sore red bottom at all the passing motorists. She was mortified and I was mortified too - I was worried that people would think I couldn't afford her underwear!!

YANBU but.... something came to me as I was thinking "poor little girl"... let's assume the mum is a prude... and has ethical issues about pantie flashing and wants her daughter to learn that (in some cultures it's never too early for that).
What if the mum explained over and over that soft play+skirt don't match and daughter insisted on skirt, and this was just a lesson for the little girl so that next time she'll wear leggings/shorts/trousers and will be able to do as pleases...

I couldn't care less about flashing children at the playground/softplay, but just a thought as to what might have gone on before we hang the mum out to dry