To not want to go to my 6 week check and especially to not want to have to take my ds with me?

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I'm fed up. And tired.

I don't really see the point in the 6 week check. If I had a prolem I would see the gp or the hv. I feel fine (apart from exhausted due to sleepless nights which is a given) and ds is fine. He saw the hv last week.

So what is the point of me dragging myself to the gp for a 6 week check??

The only reason I can see is to go back on the pill but I don't need ds to do that. I rang and asked gp if I need to bring ds and they say yes. (Dh is at home today so I could have left ds with him).

So convince me.. What are they going to do at the 6 week check? Why is it so important?

It sounds like you are doing loads, maybe too much? Remember if you had a section like I did, you would only just about be allowed to drive. Take care of yourself and don't feel like staying at home and not doing loads is wrong.

Where I live it is a 6 week check for Mum and 8 week for baby, but the GP did both of ours together. As you are already 2 weeks late it is more than likely that they will be doing both of you.

They will check lots of things on your baby- heart, hips, position of creases in legs etc.

It won't take long and you might even find that getting out of the house for a bit to be a bit of a pick me up. I know it is hideous feeling so tired all of the time but a bit of fresh air and a change of scenery might make you feel a bit more human. Is the surgery close? Could you walk there? Might wear the kids out enough for you to get in a nap this afternoon...

Sorry OP, just seen your post about getting out a lot. You do sound like you are doing a lot. Is there someone who could help out with DD so you could just rest with the LO? Grandparents?

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it will get easier soon.

I had checks for me and for DC's separately and I preferred it like that.
I think it's quite nice for your GP to ask you at 6 week stage how things are going, acknowledge that your body's just been through something amazing and challenging, and ask how you are.

If you'd prefer to have a check-up for yourself separately you could ask for that, and leave DS with DH today ? It might do you good to have 5 mins with Dr on your own, just saying how things are going ? Then another appt on another day for check up for DS ?

Maybe it's just me but, especially in the early days, I found doing too many things all at the same time, a stressy hassle !

Hey, and congratulations BTW

I never went to one with my three youngest. Having suffered through the monumentally disorganised chaos at the GPs surgery with my older two I just couldn't face it again. Like you said, had there been anything wrong I would have made an appointment with the right person for myself.

I was told that my 6 week check was for me and that I didn't have to bring the baby.

Mine is tomorrow (DD3 6 weeks on Friday).

Our surgery does everything at 8 weeks specifically to avoid Mum having to go twice (for her check up and then for baby's). They also do the 8 week vaccinations then too. I'm sure the receptionist love trying to coordinate the 3 appointments!

Won't you be having to go anyway for his jabs?

The problem is you are going to places that absolutely should be baby friendly but absolutely are not baby friendly... This country is utterly frustrating for people with young families - shitty horrible changing facilities (usually none), no facilities to make up feeds as recommended, tutting arseholes if your baby is not fast asleep like on the telly, shit weather....

I think the school hols are getting to you OP... If dh is off I would have him sort out the older dc then go for six week check and take baby visiting to a friends...

As for feeds... You know about taking a flask of boiling water out and formula in a pot? The flask will keep water above 70c for most of day... U prob know this tho x x x

They do seperate appointments here for 6 week check (mum), 8 week check first with HV then GP (babies) and immunisations. You can imagine how chuffed I was to have to attend 4 different appointments with my twins. Much better if it could all be done together.

Considering I had a emsc and complications afterwards my 6 week check was a waste of time

Scar wasn't checked
Bp not checked
Told I didn't need contraception
Told the dizzy spells, blurred vision n night sweats was down to fatigue n that was that

If u ain't up for it don't go. But ur babies checks important. But where I live it's not till 8 weeks when they have their jabs