To feel hurt by this friend completely ignoring a text I sent her?

[WoodlandHills]

Back story - I have been friends with her for over 20 years, we were "best friends" growing up and in our early 20's, we were inseparable. Our parents were best friends as well. Now we are early 30's life, kids, relationships etc have got in the way so the last few years we haven't been as close but when we did meet up it was like we had never been apart.

I was hoping we'd get to meet up over the summer holidays with the kids so I text her last week to see if she was free to meet up and she replied that she was a bit busy and had her 2 stepkids staying (she has 3 of her own kids too) so was a bit manic but maybe could meet next week. Fair enough, I completely understood. So yesterday I text her to see if she still wanted to meet this week and let her know what days I was free. And she has not replied. She is one of these people who always has her phone on her, she facebooks on it all the time and since I text she has done several facebook updates so I know she will have seen the text.

I just really miss her. I guess I haven't moved on as much as she has, I haven't got that many friends really, I am quiet and shy and find it hard to meet people and get close, whereas she has got loads of friends. And I guess I wish we were as close as we once were, and I wish she still thought as much of me as I do her.

I sound a right saddo don't I :(

Don't be upset by it, I often get texts about arranging meet ups and have to check stuff before I agree and then completely forget to text back. t's not intentional but I find it's getting worse as I get older!!

In fact this thread just made me respond to someone about a playdate that I had forgotten to reply to.

She might have missed the text, my BB seems to do what it likes.I'm always finding texts I've not read on it.

I would message her on FB.

I am glad it is not just me usual. I am always finding unread emails and texts on the bloody BBerry. I thought I was just useless.

Maybe I'd be better with a nice simple phone

I wouldn't think my friend didn't want to know me just because she didn't reply to one text, I would think she either didn't get the message, they do sometimes get lost, or that she just hasn't had time to reply. I know there are lots of times when I don't reply to texts, if i don't do it straight away I just forget, but most of my friends are the same.

Just send her another text and say, I don't know if you got my last message.... if you don't want to phone.

I'm sure she still thinks as much as you as always, people are sometimes just forgetful or maybe she needed to check which day was good for her.

Either call her or re-text her. I thought I had sent a friend a text confirming the date they were coming over for lunch but when she thankfully texted last night to see if it was still on I found my unsent text sat there!! So she might have done the same or similar - don't assume the worst that is the problem with texts!!

Personally I HATE TEXTING!!!!

(There that feels better!)

Email is ok cos i'm quite fast typist but texts are a pain to write (can't type them on your phone so take too long for me; & a poor communication method IMO.
I definitely prefer speaking to friends & family on the phone.

That way I know they've got the message; plus phonecalls mean that there's no stupid misunderstandings you can get with texts.

It's annoying & boring to spend ages sending texts back & forwards when I could make a quick (or even a long & chatty) phonecall in less time!
I've now told my friends that i will be phoning not texting when possible.

OP - i would phone your friend; i understand feeling shy but the only way to improve shyness is by confronting your fears (as i found before i got more confident.)
Also you will get a better idea of how she may be feeling & what any issues are by phone.

Oh goodness, I am so rubbish. My phone is in mt bag and I am completely oblivious to it. Friends have texted and I have seen it months later . I am so scatty tat I forget to answer right away