to be annoyed at not being invited to family party?

[themaltbycrew]

My husband has recently discovered there was a family party this weekend. he only found out when his little brother posted pictures on a social networking site. We were not invited, neither was his sister. EVERYONE else was there. We have not offended anyone, and as far as he was aware were still part of the family,

Are we being unreasonable to wonder whay this is?

Only reasons we can come up with are..
We have kids.. (although there are kids on the photos so unlikely)
we are not living in the liverpool area.
we have been living 30 mins away for 10yrs and its never been a problem before.
his sister has just moved out of liverpool 60 mins away..

Are we being unreasonable to be annoyed that we didnt even get invited?

He is the oldest of 5 children. at the party were his mum and her husband, his youngest brother and sister, his uncle and wife, his auntie and husband, and his nan, all people who he sees regularly,
He is always the peace maker of the group and has never had a cross word with any of them.. which is what maes this so confusing and upsetting

The facebook comments are very funny.

who organised it?

Do the siblings who went all still live at home? Maybe it was more of an invite for his parents, but they felt they had to have the younger ones along because they live with them (if they are of the 16yr old living at home rather than the 36yr old living at home type).

I think his FB comments are great!

It sounds to me like it was probably a very clumsy attempt to limit the number of children, especially if the people excluded had young children (you mention the two sisters also excluded had three kids each).

We recently changed what we had originally planned as an afternoon family party to an evening "adults only" one when we counted the number of kids! We would never have just left some people out though.

YANBU. I'd be bloody furious, but then we're a close family and this just wouldn't happen. I'd be really hurt and have to find out why.

he has commented on the photos with... " thats me there!... oh wait i wasnt invited!" and tagged himself in bar stools and balloons.

This will probably ensure you aren't bothered with any future invitations.

We're any of his siblings invited? Was there a meal and of so who was paying for it?

Any further revelations, OP?

I like the facebook comments. They make the point in an amusing non confrontational way. I'd see if you get any feed back from them.

Hi all thanx for your replies, The only replies we got to any messages that we sent asking what was going on was one from dh's mum saying
" the invites were only sent to me, your nan, and so called brother and sister, I took db2 as i thought it would be good for him and your nan took dsister2 for the same reason, then dsister2 took a friend"

Thats all we got, no apology. and everyone else was very quiet.

We have since moved on but my dh and his dsister1 are still quite put out by this whole thing.

Well, sounds like "just one of those things", perhaps you can help your dh and his sister move on too x