to think i cant cope without man

[Flojo1979]

So the cocklodger has been in touch. If I'm totally honest he never really went away.
He moved out exactly 12 months ago and we have occasionally exchanged text since, usually when we r both bored n nowt on telly.
Only this time I let him get under my skin.
When I was with him I lost confidence and self esteem from the constant nitpicking.
I cannot tell u how lonely I have felt these past few months, I have tried to keep busy but its always there just waiting to pull me down.
Will I ever fill this empty void? My friends r all busy with their lives and I don't have a babysitter to go out.
Someone pls help me find my flojo mojo.

Hi Flojo i remember you from our healthy eating thread :)

Ditch him, he's not worth it!

Do you have any family that can help you out with chidcare? can your friends come to you one night?

Spend a little time reliving the really shit times you spent together. Write a little list of the reasons why you left him, maybe. Then have a glass of wine in the bath, paint your nails/pamper yourself, and an something nice for next week, just for yourself if possible, or with DC. Think of a the freedom you can enjoy now, in charge of your own life again. Things will get better & brighter - one step at a time.

That would be "plan" something nice

My friends occasionally come to mine and its great, but unfortunately they can't be here more often.
Healthy eating, ummm that kinda went out the window! Another thing I need to get to grips with, would probably feel a little better if I could shift a couple of stone!

It's been 12 months and it sucks!

Find a babysitter, you must have friends who will know someone trustworthy and reliable.

Then get your social life on track, and meet someone who you deserve, not someone who uses you.

never look back.

I don't want to meet anyone tbh I want to learn to be independent, happily.
To be honest I don't think i'll find a babysitter and if I did I'd have no one to go out with. U'd prefer to find a way of being happy with dc's, no forced smiles, don't get me wrong I love nothing more than the sound of my dc's giggling but I always have the feeling something is missing. Surely that can't be a man and its just my head playing tricks on me.

Are you working at the moment Flojo?

Yes that has really helped me to keep busy. But keeping busy isn't the same as feeling contented.
Sorry, gezz I need to stop whining and get on with it.
I feel so guilty cos other ppl have real problems.

I was going to suggest redecorating but seeing as you are working as well, that will be easier said than done.

Will think a bit more and then get back to you.

I'm in rented anyway not that that usually stops me!

Sorry you're so low. Had you thought about joining a sports club that your dc could go to too? (Sorry, no idea of their age(s)). I know a friend who went to a local martial arts club with her young daughter and met loads of people and improved her fitness as well.

That sounds like a great idea. Tho dc2 is only 3 so I doubt she'll be old enough but def worth looking in to and finding out what age I can take them.

Some karate clubs and dance clubs take kids at 3... They prob won't learn that much then but it could still be fun! Good luck.

Thanks!