aibu to think 'hmmm no' when a dad is described as an equal parent....

[Socknickingpixie]

if he shows no responsability towards the child, see's child less than 13 days a year and its his choice. pays nothing towards childs upkeep.

or as in the case of a neighbour..

used to see child for less than 24 days a year, hit(we are talking punch not smack) child resulting in child refusing to go anymore, also pays nothing.

both nrp's live within 10 miles, are company directors of companys that do well.

i think if you dont take equal responsability then your not equal.

i know i did olimpia as i also agreed with you and said concider the suituation without the maintainance issue.

whilst yes i compleatly concur that maintainance should not be the sole concideration with contact i also know damn well if a rp didnt feed/clothe or supply any utilities to the child because they didnt wish to spend the money the kids would be taken away very quickly but that aside

ok yes we only hear one side of a story from one perspective but just with regard to this one suituation as told to me by the NRP not the rp so one would think that he would not want to show himself in a bad light, so this is the nrp saying i have the kid 13 days a year cant really be bothered with that want to drop it down because i have a new life with gf.

whys it so hard to say "errrr hmmmm thats not an equal parent" or if you think it is then "oh yes that is"

Because a few words on an Internet forum/over the garden fence isn't giving a big enough picture to judge!0