dh's driving

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Background: i love driving and cars. Dh doesn't.

We used to have a car each, now due to circumstances, we have one, which i drive 95% of the time. When we had a car each, i used to drive most. Of the time when we went out as a family.

I don't think dh has good observational skills and dtives.too fast when parking etc.
When he had a car he wrecked a wing on it as he said "i couldnt be bothered turning".

Ive just sat as a passenger and watched him open the driver door onto a wall, causing another dent in what i view as my car.
He was driving and therefire should have seen what he was parking near.

I am really cross with him. Aibu?

Sorry about spellings, im on phone.

YANBU!!!

YANBU I would insist on having my own car without him on the insurance in those circumstances.

YANBU!!! Surely you'd notice a wall next to the car??

I defy anyone to say Yabu

YANBU regardless who's car it is why would you not take care of it??? I would ban him from Driving!!! ( maybe a bit harsh) but id be cross to! My dh drives to fast, brakes late and makes me nervous and if he damaged my car id be very cross!!!

I am really cross. Unfortunately i cannot ban him from using it as he does need to use it sometimes. It was slightly easier for me when we had two cars but thats out of the question for a bit.
We have a family member in the car with us and im livid and cant say exactly what i want to say!!
I dont know how he can fail to see a wall. I simply dont know but he said he didnt know it was there.
I thinking of telling him he has to sort the repair out. Not the cost but for my inconvenience.

YANBU !! I would be so angry!

I would insist he went on a drivers refresher course.

I am going to disagree a little bit.

It isn't ok for him to say he 'couldn't be bothered turning'. And it wouldn't be ok if he were doing dangerous things in the car.

But if he's simply less good at parking than you, well, it's tricky but if he only drives 5% of the time he will not be getting the practice.

I would be quite cross if DH even considered he could 'ban' me from driving a shared car in this situation. Your DH is an adult. He should sort the repair out (since he did the damage), and it might not be bad for him to take some refresher lessons, but I'm not sure I'd be so full-on with the blame and anger.

LDR i agree my husband never lets me drive so I can go weeks without driving and it does make me a rusty driver when I do get behind the wheel.

A refresher course might help. I cant imagine what he'd say though.
I am definately going to ask him to sort the damage.

YABU!

Nah, not really, that was for hairylemon.

I'd be mightily pissed off too.