To try and get my brother to move

[TheQueenOfDiamonds]

My younger brother [20] lives two hours away from me. He has a daughter with his ex.

Things have never been great between him and his ex. Since they've split up things seem to have gone from bad to worse. His ex has applied for residence of the child, Which he's accepted because he hasn't got his own address [He was previously living with the ex GF]. She's accused him of being on drugs. He asked for a drugs test. She makes up lies about him etc.

He now has a new girlfriend. Something happened yesterday in town, his girlfriend apparently dragged a pregnant girl around by her hair, and then ended up in a fight with my brothers ex.

According to a friend 4 lads have just had hold of him outside tesco.

I can't get hold of him or his girlfriend and i rang the police station to see if theyd attended anything to do with him and they wouldn't tell me they said even if they had they wouldn't tell me.

Im so sick of worrying. I want him to get away from that hellhole of a town. Apparently his ex got these lads to jump him. I'm so close to losing it with the lot of them im just sat here crying i don't know what to do for him.

I've tried telling him things, i try supporting him and being here for him as much as i can given the distance. Our Dad lives near him but isn't interested. Me and my mum live up here. He'd be so much better off up here we'd help him.

It's really hard, I have a little brother too and all you want to do is use the experience being born first gave you and help them. but sometimes. They just need to figure it out for themselves. Yanbu but try to stay the right Side of nagging or he'll stop listening. being there for him is enough.
You sound like a lovely sister x

Agree that you do sound lovely, but at 20 he must know getting himself out of the situation would calm things down.

The situation with his ex sounds really complicated and volatile, but is it that he doesn't want to feel (even though he wouldn't be) to be abandoning his DD by moving so far away?

He's a grown up, and you aren't his mam. Step back or you could end up making things worse. You can't tell him where he'll "be better off" - it's his life. He has to make his own decisions, and mistakes.

You've rang the police so you have obviously left messages on his phone. He knows you want to speak to him. Put the phone down for tonight, he will ring you back.

How does your friend know what has happened?