To LAUGH hysterically at my MIL on the phone

[worriedwretch]

I'm 38 weeks PG

Was my birthday earlier in week. PIL have been away. (normally live locally) we have an odd relationship. All very polite & formal -

Any way yesterday when I got back from a friends house there was a bag on my windowsill (window was ajar - id left it like this)

In the bag was a home made cake it was bloody delicious a card addresses to me, two presents wrapped up in matching paper with a card stuck to them from SIL (lovely well thought of presents too) a small paper gift bag sellotaped up with my name on it and something wrapped in bubble wrap.

Last night I ate cake and this morning I opened the presents. Bless them I thought.

I've just phone MIL to thank her for her lovely cake, ask about their trip away etc etc and say thank you for the stunning presents (especially the one wrapped in bubble wrap)

She says

"oh glad you like it, it's FOR YOUR SISTER"

Basically one of her other daughters (not SIL who sent the lovely presents, another daughter) had sent some
Thing with MIL for me to give to my sister (it's a craft based thing that she does, my sister had bought from
Her)

Well. Now I'm sad. It's lovely. I really love it. I have others that I had bought in the past. I had unwrapped this one thinkin it was from other SIL and put it on my shelf with the others. It's STUNNING.

Mil has asked me to pass it on to my sister.

Why did she put it in the bag with my present? Or am I being u?

I'm just sad now. I laughed down the phone to MIL to hide my hormonal sadness

She may have meant to put a note in and forgot (I use Post It's all the time and sometimes they can fall off)

Can you offer to buy it from your sister?

Oh, and you HAVE to tell us what it is!!!

Yeah what was it? That seems a bit daft not to stick a note on it saying it was for your sis not you.

Keep it and say she never told you

Keep it, I'm sure your sister will understand.

eyes all the items in my house that are actually my sisters... And all the missing objects of mine that now reside in my sister's house

Out myself here - but it's a hand blown and polished glass tumbler.

And it's BEAUTIFUL

Or we can guess?

Willy warmer?

Wank sock?

Clay miniature cottage?

Hand made candle in the shape of an ex Prime Minister (you said you've put it on the shelf with the others, I reckon you only needed John Major to complete the set and that's why you like it so much)

Pot holder in the shape of a famous mountain?

X post - it sounds lovely not like my awful suggestions at all

Awwwwww poor you :(
Maybe ask the sil if she will make one like that for you? I suppose mil had just popped round with one bag and was going to give them to you and explain about the other gift, but didn't think through what it would seem like if you opened the bag without her being there to explain

Awwwwww poor you :(
Maybe ask the sil if she will make one like that for you? I suppose mil had just popped round with one bag and was going to give them to you and explain about the other gift, but didn't think through what it would seem like if you opened the bag without her being there to explain

Can you not buy one from SIL? I took the post to mean that SIL makes them? Tell her you loved this one so much that you'd like one?

Btw, yanbu to be disappointed, it should've been clearly labelled.

Oh. It's lovely. Plus I have taken a photo of it and put it on Facebook AND text my SIL thanking her for my birthday present. Only she didn't send me one did she?!

Oh bless you. Get your Dh to pay your SIL to make you one the same.

YANBU I'd be gutted too!

Maybe she'll let you keep it out of guilt and send another one to your sister

Do you get on with your sister? Could it be your sister's present to you

Wonder if I should see if I can put a photo of them on my profile. I'm genuinely really sad.

And embarrassed.

Oh dear now she will be she didn't actually get you a gift!

Agree with pp's ask sil to make you one too.

I hearby retract my policy of replying to first-clicked threads.

All I know is there's something funny going on.

For a start, you can hide your post from your time-line on FB, which will help with the embarrassment.

I think in this situation I'd be totally honest and explain the situation to SIL. Then tell her you totally fell in love with the glass thing, and ask her if she'll make you one and offer to pay. I'd also just say sorry about the thinking it was a present misunderstanding and you'll prob find she'll be so embarrassed at missing your birthday that she'll make you one for free.

Sorted! (I think!)

A wank sock

i'm sorry. they should have said, left a note, whatever. they put it in your house, unmarked. its yours. no guilt.

YANBU I would keep it .you've text SIl to say thanks has she replied saying it wasn't your gift or has she not responded.. bet she feels really uncomfortable. I agree with anyone who says it's been put in your house with no note and you've opened it and like it keep it. Your MIL is nuts.

OK maybe I'm being dense, but why would they send gift for your sister when they know it's your birthday?

My sis and SIL are friends - and sis had purchased this glass from SIL.

ILs been to visit their daughters (SILS x2) and bought back presents from one for me, and this glass from other SIL which she has sold to my sis for me to give to her (I assume to save postage)