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Selling gifts on ebay?

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Ecgwynn · 03/08/2012 07:10

A relative who lives in the USA has sent us about 6 outfits for our DS, some of which is designer stuff. It's very generous of her, she seems to have gone to a lot of effort and I've never even met her! One of the outfits is a 'Guess' summery babygro aged 9 months. DS will be 9 months at Christmas. There are also two ralph lauren t-shirts which can fetch about 15 quid on ebay. I wouldn't feel comfortable with DS wearing designer clothes, it's too showy. He grows so fast that the quality of the clothes doesn't really matter.
AIBU to flog the designer stuff on ebay and use the money to buy him more, cheaper clothes? Or is this proper bitchy?

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doblet · 03/08/2012 07:24

If he isn't going to wear them then at least wait till he outgrows that size

Welshchick · 03/08/2012 07:30

Yanbu. Especially regarding item that would not be seasonally appropriate. Much better than not wearing the items. If I was the person who had given you them it would not bother me in the least.

SimoneD · 03/08/2012 07:30

I don't think there's anything wrong with selling unwanted gifts on ebay but your reasoning seems a bit odd. You might think its a waste of money to buy him good quality clothes but these are a gift, if a relative has been generous enough to buy your son something nice why not let him enjoy the benefits of it. I don't think I'd be too happy if I went to thhe trouble of choosing some lovely outfits as a gift and the mother sold them to buy ten times as much crap in asda/primark etc

GhostShip · 03/08/2012 07:32

Personally I think it's a bit ignorant. I'm sure they'd love a photo of your child wearing them one time.

pigletmania · 03/08/2012 07:41

Yabu in your reasons. Your relative has taken the time and effort to pick out some lovely things for your ds. I would keep them, be happy that someone cares to give him nice presents, take a few photos with your ds wearing them and e mail them to her/him. I could understand if they were for the wrong size or season for his size. But yabu I am afraid

LindyHemming · 03/08/2012 07:53

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Ecgwynn · 03/08/2012 08:00

Simone - Lovely is a matter of taste though isn't it? I think having a big fat ralph lauren horse on the front of the tshirt is not lovely. I appreciate that good quality clothes are nice and they wash better etc but the asda 'crap' has been outgrown before it looks tired. When all babies do is vom/poo on their clothes, what's the point in having such good quality stuff? How does my DS 'benefit' from this? Will people like him more if he wears designer clothes?

As I said, it's very generous of her, she seems to have gone to a lot of effort. I know she cares and that's lovely.

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pigletmania · 03/08/2012 08:01

It may be your choice not to buy designer stuff for your baby but it seems very ungrateful to sell it on e bay. Use them, enjoy them and he will grow out of them oon enough and you can still sell them or give them away

GhostShip · 03/08/2012 08:01

Anything you get as a gift is a bonus. If they hadn't be so kind you wouldn't have anything at all.
So selling them for some cheaper baby grows is a bit wrong IMO. If you need more baby grows, go and buy some. Don't use a thoughtful gift to do that.

YouOldSlag · 03/08/2012 08:31

YANBU, but send a really heartfelt thank you card by snail mail with maybe a photo of the baby in one of the outfits. THEN sell em.

Dprince · 03/08/2012 08:44

Yabu. I don't buy designer clothes for my kids, but if they were bought them I would wear them on them, unless they are really over the top. Even then I would pop it on and take some photos.
I fail to see how a summer baby grow can not be used in December. Fair enough you wouldn't use it outside the house, but could inside. Also I find US sizes quite small. I got ds a t-shirt sized 18 months when he was 12 month and it only just fit him. Everything else we bought there we bought the 2 year old size.
if you are going to sell them at least wait until he can't wear them.
Tbh your post comes across as though you want to sell them because of the money they are worth, not because you don't like them or are unsuitable.

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Ecgwynn · 03/08/2012 10:06

I do want to sell them because of the money they are worth but I also dislike designer labels and one item is unsuitable. I don't want the money to buy myself gin and fags, I just think having 4 cheaper t-shirts is more useful than having one expensive designer one, especially when small people don't appreciate posh clothes and regularly soil them.

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tryingtonotfeckup · 03/08/2012 10:43

YABU, someone has spent time and money in choosing something for your DC and you just want to sell it to buy something cheaper. I don't buy designer clothers for my DC, MIL bought one some Chloe items (I hated DD having a better wardrobe than I did) but I put them on her, she looked great. Its the thought that went into the gift that should be appreciated.

Use them, then sell them on ebay, they will still be in good condition. Layer up the summer item, if it doesn't fit until then.

GhostShip · 03/08/2012 11:05

The fact of the matter is no matter what you would have preferred, thats what they chose and that's what you got. That's the point of a gift.

Sighingagain · 03/08/2012 11:16

I'd sell them - I wouldn't put them on a baby either - stick em on get a photo and sell (don't take labels off for photo).

We are broke and I have been known to sell new versions of expensive clothes and use the money to buy second hand the same thing at a 10th of the cost.

BandersnatchCummerbund · 03/08/2012 11:20

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racingheart · 03/08/2012 11:29

If you didn't know the big fat horse represented Ralph Lauren, would you let your baby poo and vom in these clothes? If so, put him in them. I'm not sure you'll get £15 on Ebay for them. I've seen them sell for the price of Asda tees. You can always sell them on afterwards if they are still in reasonable condition. (Though IMO Ralph Lauren stuff is v badly made. We had some as presents for the DC. They don't wash half as well as Sainsbury's and the finish is equal only to Primark. Gap and the supermarkets have a much better cut and finish.)

Sighingagain · 03/08/2012 11:43

Sorry but if I had a friend who was broke - I would care less if they sold my present - I can get a whole bag of baby clothes for the price of one of those ts on eBay (they sell well new - list on a free weekend).

I try to get things people Would like/need - but if there is a better way for them to benefit from my gift - good for them.

BandersnatchCummerbund · 03/08/2012 12:32

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Sighingagain · 03/08/2012 12:36

I don't "look" broke but believe me - if I wasn't I wouldn't be arsing about with eBay And that applies to most people I know who sell on it.

YouOldSlag · 03/08/2012 13:42

True sighing- I had a real ebay habit but what people didn't realise is that we were seriously broke at the time and those small amounts of cash really made a massive difference.

GhostShip · 03/08/2012 14:55

Sighing again - but it's not like the OP has put this gift into her budget. It's a bonus. Selling it for extra cash or extra baby grows is ungrateful I think.

Sighingagain · 03/08/2012 15:48

So she will have some extra for her budget - or the baby can have extra.

I don't get why people are so [hmmm] about it - clearly the money will help more than a designer t-shirt.

Sighingagain · 03/08/2012 15:49

Any extra I get will mean getting less into debt each month - maybe same for op

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