AIBU to find this a bit rude?

[Oogaballoo]

I genuinely don't know whether I'm being oversensitive here or not. I was made voluntarily redundant a month ago and have received a generous severance package. I'm not searching very hard for jobs at the moment as I have enough to live off for a good while and am enjoying spending the time with my children, plus I want to consider all of my options (retraining and so on) before I jump into anything. I do however feel a little guilty and like I should be doing "more". It's just that one of my friends keeps on making remarks that make me feel a bit

"Well you must have spend at least a grand of it since xxxxx"
"How many jobs did you apply for today then?" despite me explaining the above to her. She then stays really silent while I try and explain again and I end up feeling really small and lazy for not applying to a huge amount of jobs.
"What did you do today, then? Must be nice not having to do anything all day."

These comments are making me really uncomfortable and a little bit angry, but I can't quite put my finger on why. Am I just being silly or is it actually quite rude to make little comments like this on what I'm doing and how I'm spending my money every day. I don't know what to say to her about it. I just want her to stop talking about what I'm doing with my resources. On the other hand, I feel like maybe I'm overreacting and it's just my own sense of insecurity making me feel this way.

I was thinking about it earlier and I realised no one- not my family or my partner or anyone else- mentions these things as much as she does.

AIBU? And if I'm not, what should I say to her?

Some people identify themselves entirely by the job they do and the status that comes with the title, they judge everybody else by what they 'do' for a living and can't understand why other people would have better things to do.

Next time she starts ask if she has nothing interesting on her mind because your sick of hearing the same boring questions. If she hasn't, leave.

Well done, rainy!

just yawn.

YANBU
I'm in similar situ (but also related to leaving London to be with DH) and a few of my career friends find it hard to get their head round 'what do you actually do all day'.
Don't think they are jealous actually, just sort of curious. Plus some people feel like everyone else could do with the benefit of their advice / opinion.

After getting really irritated for a while now I just say, 'the same stuff that you do on a day off but no lazing around watching TV'

Plus working for DH's company who is a much more annoying boss than they'll ever have

Oh and MN (but I don't mention that!!)

Stop trying to explain.

Just hmmm along or say yes or no

you don't owe her any sort of explanation.

And if you get really sick of it - say so!

Do you think she might just be worried about you?

Please tell me you are claiming jsa (or whatever it's called these days) or paying your NI contrubution so you're not poking a big hole in your payment record. Then there's private pension to think about.

How old is she? If late 30s (like me) it's very hard not to do the knee jerk thing of thinking "must have a job". It's quite a mental gymnastic exercise to not do that.

But if she's being sneery just tell her to but out. Is there anything going on in her life though at the moment to make her act so weird? eg is she worried her husband is going to leave her so is projecting onto you? I know... unlikely but people aren't often nasty for no reason.