To not be constantly asked when I am getting married

[Wiggypigs]

I've been to quite a few weddings recently and all I get asked is when I am getting married! Argggh!! DP and I do want to get married one day but it isn't a big deal to us and we have other priorities at the moment such as buying our own home. Why do people assume that just because we have been together for a while that we want to rush in to the whole marriage thing!?!

Been there. I don't know if people realise just how irritating it is as well as rude - do they think they are going to be the first to know? This was up there alongside "why don't you guys have kids yet?" For all the asker knew this could have been a massive, contentious issue between us or maybe we couldn't have kids. I was always people who didn't know us intimately so these things could have been the case and they wouldn't know.

I tried all sorts of responses but none of them worked. In the end we go married and I am pregnant cracked under the pressure

annoying isnt it before we were married I used to get the same folk just nosy , I also used to get Mrs from playgroup workers and nursery

First it's "When are you getting married?" then "When are you having kids?" then "Are you planning a second?" repeat ad infinitum

Meant to say, we worked out that we were being asked this by people who wanted some sort of reassurance that their chosen lifestyle was the preferred. We were never asked this by childless or unmarried people.

Just stick to having different priorities at the moment.

Fatuous comments from people who can't think what else to say. Ignore. Alternatively

"Ooh, I hadn't thought about it really, but now that you mention it, we must set a date - have you got your diary handy?"

mrsjay this drives me mental. I work in a school and am in frequent contact with parents. I have lost track of times over the years when someone wants to put me through to 'Jimmy's mum' without having noted their surname. We deal with literally thousands of parents so sometimes the surnames of parent slips my mind. I have learned to refuse to take the call until I have time to look up the parent's name - it's just rude to assume they are Mrs Jimmy'ssurname