To not give my DS ice cream when everyone else has had some.

[MammaTJ]

My DS is nearly 6, my youngest and very much the baby of the family.

He has always been bad at eating. Wednesday nights are rubbish tea nights, due to work. The DCs usually get to choose what they want as they choose quick and easy. DD chose pizza, I cooked that and she ate it. I chose home made low fat chicken Kiev, I cooked it and I ate it. DP chose frozen curry, he cooked it and he ate it. DS chose tinned spag bol, I cooked it and he refused to eat it.

Everyone who had eaten there meal got ice cream. My DS did not. He says I am not being fair. I feel really mean too!!

BTW, this is not in invitation to judge the one crappy meal a week.

there their!

Firm but fair.

Stick to your guns, woman. YANBU.

It is so hard!!!

Pudding comes after dinner. No dinner, no pudding.

A harsh lesson but one that will serve him well.

Tho' OP you do make your life difficult, serving umpteen different meals.

YANBU.

Did he even try it?

I think everyone has a crappy meal occasionally, OP. Can forgive that .
You were right not to give in to him, especially as he chose the meal.

Nope, no icecream if he's not eaten most of his tea.

Did he give a reason for not wanting to eat it?

Yanbu. But 4 meals???!!!

I think that sounds fair!!

If it's something he's had before and he likes, YANBU. If it's something he hasn't had before and he refused to even try it, YANBU

It is fair. Everyone who ate some of their meal got ice cream.

I'm not a fan of making a child clear their plate to get pudding, because that just encourages overeating, but they should at least eat a reasonable amount of it!

I think you have to be really careful when it comes to children and food. All this 'finish your dinner' can often lead to 'ishoos' IMO. However you asked him what he wanted and he still didn't eat it. I'd at least want him to make an effort if he were my child. You have my sympathies, I don't know what you're supposed to do with fussy eaters - I'm starting to notice DS becoming fussy over lots more things than he used to but he's much younger. I might go down the route of talking to a HV or something if it became a real problem later on.

I think on this occasion as you've said no ice cream you should stick to it but personally I wouldn't be using food or lack of it as a bribe with a child already displaying signs of 'being bad' with it

he wont die of Ice cream malnutrition of course you are being fair he didnt eat his tea that HE chose dont look at him as you eat your ice cream

If that's the rule in your house, that's the end of the story. If he's not hungry enough to eat his dinner, he's clearly not hungry enough for pudding either.

Of course you're not being fair! How do you expect him to rule the house world if you make him eat dinner.

Other than that no, YANBU.

YANBU.
I'd have done the same.
He chose.

If that is the rule you have in the house then you were right to stick to it.

He wouldn't have got any in my house either, and I've just had a crap meal day as well (with very little excuse other than being skint and on Mumsnet!

YANBU. Dd was a very picky eater and I had the same rules.

I don't mind doing different meals. I like to give them food I know they like. My DP is the fussiest but he often sorts himself out. My DS did eventually eat enough for ice cream, so got his too. I do not make them clear their plates. I have my own ishoos and should not have had ice cream myself.

If a child tells me they are full and then ask for something else they get told NO.

Full means u can not fit anymore else in.

YANBU to stick to your rules, though I would have given in and let him have it tbh, but that's because I'm too soft and is the reason my DD is such a nightmare child!