AIBU for wanting to jus be left alone when 4 days overdue?

[Cheekychops84]

I'm now 4 days overdue with third child. Im tired, anxious and depressed and yet people are nag nag nagging about going out here and there with the kids. I know it's nice of them as they prob want to keep my mind off it but when I explain I'm tired or I don't want to go out too far etc they jus dnt stop going on ! Getting txts at 10pm at night asking to go out tommorow what's the plan is actually starting to get me down :( I'm fed up making excuses tbh. Or am I being s selfish boring cow?

You're 4 days overdue. You are not being unreasonable. Full stop.

YANBU, they are. At 4 days overdue they should know you need to relax and stay close to home!

Maybe you could try saying, 'It's so kind of you to offer to take the DCs out! I could really do with some peace. I'll have them ready for you at 9AM. Thanks.'

You are not '4days overdue' until 40+18. A normal pg lasts 37-42 weeks. 40 is average not a deadline.

I think the "overdue-ness" is irrelevant and you're being harsh, Margerykemp.
The point is, OP, you're very pregnant and don't feel like doing anything and you really need to tell those who are nagging you. I'll bet they'll be really understanding and kind. Just tell the truth, politely and with a smile.

You're not being selfish or boring but you are being unreasonable to not turn your phone of if you don't want texts at 10pm.

And I agree with Margery

I found directing people to this link came in handy when I was overdue

Anyway, how d'you know she's not 40+18? Have I missed something?

Oh look, I've been drawn in now. Like I said, the number of days over/under/whatever really isn't the point.

I have told them that until the baby is here I'm
Not making any plans as it's difficult at the moment etc but has made no difference! Ok I'm not overdue then even tho my midwife has decided I am? I still dnt feel like beig dragged round town or theme parks or farms or zoos tho! And I want my children to be near me when it happens as my mum is on call to have them.

Why anyone thinks you would want to go anywhere further than the sofa right now is beyond me. YANBU to want to be left alone, but worra is right, turn your phone off if you don't want to be bothered. (then again people will probably just assume you're in labour if they can't get through!)

didn't read past 4 days overdue, but past then every thing hurts and zero energy so yanbu

So ignore the texts then or turn your phone off

It's not rocket science and nothing to get stressed about

I'm not pregnant at all but if I didn't want to do something, I'd simply reply with 'No thanks, don't fancy it'.

The end

Well the particular person who does the nagging can get rather nasty if I don't reply then makes me feel guilty which is why I am probably asking this question ?

And If I say no it's like ok fine whatever

You're making a big thing of it Cheeky. Just tell 'em. Just say "I don't feel like going anywhere thanks, I'm happiest at home". Don't waffle on with excuses and stuff. No-one will be offended, I'm sure.

Have you forgotten what it's like? Be nice to the OP.

I didn't realise they were wanting to take your DC miles away. YANBU.

Oh, x-post.

Well then the nagger's an asshole and you have no reason to feel guilty. I know one can come over a bit "doormat-ish" in late pregnancy (I did) but you really need to just say no.

any one that badgers a women 4 days past her due date is no friend

Absolutely Narked, they're being bloody horrid aren't they?

Oh come on now

Mountain and molehill spring to mind

You're a grown up...if you don't want to go out just say so and fuck what they think.

The chances are, they won't be as bothered as you imagine anyway...I mean who would?

Yea funny the person who behaves like that has never had children so obv doesn't get how I feel jus find it hard as feel like crap anyway then wen someone starts getting nasty cause I dnt want to do something and tries to make it look line I'm the arsehe makes me feel even more crap

There you go OP.

Now, just say no thanks and let the nagger say "ok fine whatever" and soon your baby will be here and all this nonsense will be forgotten.

You can either

a) tell them the truth - you're tired so you're not making any plans until the baby is born

or

b) make up a good excuse that will cover all your days until labour - painting your bedroom/shopping for baby clothes/a better excuse!

I agree Worra, (but I don't get all the nitpicking about due dates).

*arsehole rather lol yes I'm an adult I can take it just not nice when I'm in the heavily pregnant hormonal state that I am :(