Aibu to try and renew a friendship in real life?

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Cathycomehome · 31/07/2012 23:21

Trival, sorry, but feeling insecure about it... I have made Facebook friends with a girl I was at school with. She and I have been commenting a lot on each other's statuses etc, and "getting on" really well, she and her partner seem really fun. WIBU to suggest a real life meet up (she still lives quite near where we grew up) or would that be weird; we are 35 and haven't seen each other since we were 20 or thereabouts.

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PlumpDogdePodiumPunchesdeAir · 31/07/2012 23:23

Wouldn't be wierd at all, Cathy - well, OK, it night be weird, but that's not a reason not to do it. What have you got to lose?

WorraLiberty · 31/07/2012 23:24

I can't for the life of me even imagine why anyone would think that was weird?

PlumpDogdePodiumPunchesdeAir · 31/07/2012 23:26

Weird as in catching up with someone after 15 years can be kind of unusual (did something similar recently - it was fabulous!) - but that's good weird!

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Cathycomehome · 31/07/2012 23:26

Well, just because it's been so long, I guess. Maybe I'll suggest it, she can only say no! Just feels a bit weird as we haven't kept in touch before.

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Cathycomehome · 31/07/2012 23:31

Ah, xpost! You are making me feel more confident, Plumpdodge...

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PlumpDogdePodiumPunchesdeAir · 01/08/2012 00:17

I hope you do it, Cathy!

VolAuVent · 01/08/2012 00:36

YANBU. Nothing wrong with that at all. Hope you enjoy meeting up. It may be a success or it may not, but you might as well give it a try.

whois · 01/08/2012 00:38

Go for it!

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Cathycomehome · 01/08/2012 01:01

:) she's on holiday at the moment, I might suggest a meet at some point when she gets back. I'm on maternity leave, so it's a good time whilst I'm free and flexible with time I guess.

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ravenAK · 01/08/2012 01:09

I've done this & it's worked well.

The one thing I'd say is: go for coffee/a drink, just the two of you, rather than inviting her round or going for a meal as couples etc.

That way, if it becomes obvious that actually you don't have much in common these days, it's had less build up & it's easier from both POVs to let it take a quiet & dignified slide back into FB acquaintance.

RindersGoesForGold · 01/08/2012 01:14

Not weird in the least. Last year I met up with an old school friend (& FB buddy) and we had a blast. We hadn't seen each other for about 25 years!

Go for it, but i agree...meet her for a coffee & catch up first and only then suggest do a foursome if you get on.

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