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To feel a bit weird about punishing someone else's child?

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startwig1982 · 31/07/2012 19:40

My dniece had her birthday party at the weekend with about 20 of her class there. They had an Olympic themed party with lots of different events: musical chairs, statues etc
Although I missed it actually happening, my Dsis later proudly told me that she'd put a boy on the naughty step for trying to make someone move during sleeping lions.
I thought this was a bit over the top and not really the right thing to do, but not sure how others felt about it. I'm not sure I'd be happy with someone else disciplining my child like that.

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SamanthaSingsTheBlues · 31/07/2012 19:42

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BonkeySaysTeamGBAreTheMollocks · 31/07/2012 19:43

That was a bit much for that particular incident, but if my child was doing something really naughty then, yes i would expect whoever was the responsible adult to pull him up on it appropriately.

I would be a tad annoyed if my child got pulled out of a game because and put on the naughty step for something minor like that.

A quick word at the sode was all that was needed, if that, imo.

snowball3 · 31/07/2012 19:43

I'm forever telling other people's children off!

Mind you, I'm a teacher Grin

BonkeySaysTeamGBAreTheMollocks · 31/07/2012 19:44

8side

usualsuspect · 31/07/2012 19:46

On the naughty step at a kids party?

Bit OTT

usualsuspect · 31/07/2012 19:46

An 'Oi pack it in would have done'

BonkeySaysTeamGBAreTheMollocks · 31/07/2012 19:47

Yep usual has it!

That would have done the trick! Grin

LemonBreeland · 31/07/2012 19:49

I think telling him off is fine but the naughty corner is totally over the top. Especially at a party when spirits are high.

I have used the naughty corner for my dc in the past but would not be very pleased with anyone else doing it under any circumstances. It is not her place.

kim147 · 31/07/2012 19:50

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2beornot · 31/07/2012 19:54

I would tell another child off if they were hurting another child or generally being nasty. Don't think it was necessary here though

Pancakeflipper · 31/07/2012 19:56

I have no issue telling off a child who is in my care. But I wouldn't put them on the naughty step. Seems OTT and I would be pissed off if another mother did that to my kid for trying to make another kid mode during sleeping lions.

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startwig1982 · 31/07/2012 19:57

I'm happy to tell kids off as I'm a teacher but I did think this was over the top for a child who's clearly just a bit excited!
Glad I'm not the only one.

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JollyWasteOfMoney · 31/07/2012 19:58

I would definitely tell other children off. One little girl hit my DS in softplay today. So I told her off. Her parents were not around. (DS is 15 months and that's why I supervise him, before I get accused of helicoptering).

JollyWasteOfMoney · 31/07/2012 19:59

But yes, the reaction in the case you describe is OTT.

Mrsjay · 31/07/2012 20:19

Naughty step she sounds a bloody hoot !! you can tell a child off for pushing or whatever but the naughty step

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startwig1982 · 31/07/2012 20:21

She is a bit bonkers... Grin

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Mrsjay · 31/07/2012 20:22

She is a bit bonkers...

clearly Grin

JumpingThroughHoops · 31/07/2012 20:32

Who wants someone elses child shoving and pushing others and ruining a party? Best he learns now that there are rule to be adhered to outside of the home.

Molehillmountain · 31/07/2012 20:37

I'd really hope my children would behave well when out and about but if not I'd hope and expect the adult in charge to make sure they were safe and pleasant enough company for others. They are in loco parentis after all.

Mrsjay · 31/07/2012 20:37

Who wants someone elses child shoving and pushing others and ruining a party? Best he learns now that there are rule to be adhered to outside of the home.

But the Naughty step Hmm she sent him to the naughty step , that is a personal sort of punishment , you cant send kids to a naughty step because the mum does it at home,

JumpingThroughHoops · 31/07/2012 20:40

throws hands up oh no! not the naughty step!

Oh well Im sure he'll get over it and be a nicer child for it.

If you own a brattish child, best you stay at parties and do your own non effective punishment Grin Then at least everyone can point and talk about you and not the child.

Mrsjay · 31/07/2012 20:41

your taking the piss now aint ya jumping Grin

thisisyesterday · 31/07/2012 20:44

where does it say he was pushing, shoving and ruining the party?

he tried to make someone move during a game

the punishment given was way OTT

LordOfThe5Rings · 31/07/2012 21:10

I know how you feel, OP. I have looked after my little cousins and my friends little boys before and whenever they are really naughty (beyond just being a little silly, because all kids do that) I feel loathed to punish them, because I don't feel it is my place. I know I have been put in charge of their care but I feel it's a bit horrible and a bit scary for the kids to recieve any real punishments from someone who isn't their Mum or Dad. I know it would've really, really shocked and upset me as a kid.

But if they are in danger and need a little smack or a shout, I'd do it. Because then those things mentioned above wouldn't matter, their safety would be the most important thing.

Inneedofbrandy · 31/07/2012 21:33

But if they are in danger and need a little smack or a shout, I'd do it. Because then those things mentioned above wouldn't matter, their safety would be the most important thing.
^^
If you smacked my children you would need to worry about your own safety LordOfThe5Rings