To not tell Dh hw was right?

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So back in May, Dragon Dog died very suddenly and we were devastated by the loss of a much loved Dog who'd been with us for nearly 11 years.

By coincidence / fate that week dh came across a lady who was looking for experienced Labrador owners to take on some Lab puppies, she'd rescued the mum.

I said NO, too soon and it was a ridiculous idea taking on a puppy with a toddler and child in the house, silly commitment to rush in to etc etc.

He emailed photos of said puppy. I said No, and that at least one of us were being a grown up.

He got the dc's on side and was relentless in his reasoning / puppy pictures, I pointed out he knew fine well that it should be my decision when to get a dog as it was me that it all dog care, training etc etc.

He said he was aware of that, wouldn't push me.

Somehow he got me on the phone to the Lady, who said she would love me to have one of the dogs but totally understood how I felt.

Then the rotten sod got tearful one night as he said he hated me being so upset and seeing me without Dragon Dog trailing after me was like seeing me missing a limb

I wavered. I admitted I couldn't stand not having a dog. Somehow within 48 hours I had then been checked, approved and had HullyGullyPuppy.

I have repeatedly and categorically pointed out it is all his fault that I am running round like a blue arsed fly, up at stupid O'Clock and permanently training said mutt, that he coerced me into getting, on the basis it was "fate".

Thing is

I LOVE it. And I really really Love her. HullyPuppy is lovely and makes me go Squeee a lot. She is awesome. I cuddle her loads when no one is looking.

But if I tell dh this then that would be admitting he was RIGHT I cannot do this, it goes against everything I stand for.

I am clearly therefore not unreasonable to ensure that dh never, ever discovers how much I love my puppy am I?

YANBU, never let him know, you'll have to concede on other decisions and never hear the end of it! :o

lord only knows but go on give her a cuddle even if people are looking

You need to re-write history - make it sound as if it was your idea all along and isn't it lucky that you persuaded him to take the puppy. I'm not sure how exactly you would do that, but I'm sure somebody will come up with something.

I have the same problem with my kitty-boy. DH talked me round and persuaded me and I gave in grudgingly. And now he is my best thing ever. I adore him. But I still maintain we didn't need another cat.

If he has any sort of awareness, he'll work it out through observation.
If he has any common sense, he'll smile and say nothing.

Sock, I do hug her around people, but I am not hugging her then, I am socialising her. There is not a big difference

I think it's called making the best of a bad job.

Dd and I have just got kittens and Dh wasn't too keen but seems to spend an enormous amount of time playing with them now that they are here. I smirk but don't comment.

I have noticed a significant amount of smirking, he better not be on to me

Vermicious Tonight, when you are all watching tv together, you give DDog a big cuddle and say in a sickening, saccharine voice, 'Aren't you glad Mummy bought you? Yes? Yes? It was all Mummy's idea, wasn't it? Nasty Daddy didn't want a doggie but we're so glad we have you, aren't we snookums?'

Whilst Nasty Daddy is spluttering in shock, sail off to the kitchen and get some wine. By the time you come back, it will be Orthodoxy that You Wanted a Dog.

I'm not sure I'd go far on here if I ask for help in gas lighting dh
Anyfucker would DO ONE right at me.

aww I am trying to get mr jay to agree to a new dog he isnt for it and it is doing my head it Jay dog died 18 months ago and we miss not having a dog, enjoy your puppy and don't let on to him he knew you better than you know yourself