To want a day off worth too?

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Dh had yesterday off work to recover from a bug. I spent all day running around after him and a very grouchy teething Baby Cakes, then up all night with the latter and have now caught the former's horrid bug.

Today dh goes back to work all perky and refreshed having had a full night's sleep plus the 6 hours napping hw managed to squeeze in yesterday. 6 hours. I haven't had 6 hours at nighttime in the last 6 months, never mins during the day. Last night was 2 hours at a time, max. And now I have the horrid bug, but no day off or 6 hours napping for me. Oh no. I get to spend the day baby wrestling again.

Aibu to be in a real grump about this?

Oops. Typo in title. Should be 'work', obviously.

No. I'd be grumpy too. Is there anyone you could ask to come and help?

Could your DH take the day off to look after you?
YANBU.

Hope you feel better very soon.

I take it your dh can't take another day of?

The thing is your work is in the home and you can, to a certain extent, control your work load. Have a day recovering and do the bare minimum.

Have you got parents or in laws or friends near by that can help?

Grab the baby. Grab the Duvet. Grab the remote. Choose a boxset.

Sit on sofa all day under duvet with baby.

Have you got parents/friends/in laws who can take the baby for a couple of hours while you sleep? Can your dh take half a day off work? Its so shit being ill but having no choice but to just get on with it.

Its one of the shit things about being a sahm. Dh couldn't take time off at short notice and didn't get paid when sick.
Sorry you feel ill.

It gets worse when youve got a toddler
At least you can contain baby in the cot whileyoure puking

I second the duvet/sofa suggestion. Gather everything you might need, changing mat, nappies, change of clothes, biscuits etc etc. Veg in front of the TV. When your DH gets home, you can go straight to bed and he can clear up the mess and get you set up again for tomorrow.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

As Dprince said, it's one of the many occupational hazards of being a SAHM, especially when you have no family/friends/nanny support. I've had over 4 years of this. DH has taken a morning off once in all that time, when I had a migraine and couldn't actually see anything. I'll go one better. When my mother died recently, I had no time off from the DC and my SAHM role at all, I just had to get on with it. When DH's died a few months later, he had the best part of 3 weeks off courtesy of his sympathetic workplace. Bitter, moi?!

Get well soon, make your sure your DH gives you a complete break at the weekend (if not before).

So tell him he is in charge at the weekend - night feeds and house and take a day or two

I let DH know in no uncertain terms what I need and what he needs to do.

Are you saying that in 6 months your DH hasn't done one single night with the baby? Because if that's the case then that's a ridiculous situation. I'm a SAHM and last time I was very ill I just told DH he had to stay at home. Carrying on when you're ill isn't a good idea - I've done it before and ended up in hospital. I'd rather DH have some hassle at work than end up really really sick again and DH agrees.

Dh pulls his weight, but baby is ebf and bottles don't work, unfortunately.

We're going to in-laws at weekend and I will take full advantage

Fair enough re the ebf. You must be knackered though!

Just do the minimum to get through today and off to bed with you once DH is home.

And dh can't take time off work, we're on the tail end if his annual leave already (due to extra leave being required post-birth) and we're moving house in a month, so I need him available for that. Sigh. Maternity leave is a joke.

And Baby Cakes is doing 8-12 pooey nappies a day atm. yay.

He could just call in sick again couldn't he? Or does he have limited sick days?

No, but he used to be a teacher and is institutionalised to not take days off unless absolutely essential. Anyway, this is nothing, I had flu a month ago and spent a week on my own with BC. It's only the fact he got yesterday off that's narked me.